Ian here and I'm new, obviously. I came here to learn a few things. So far I have read DyD and I'm reading Tynan's book Make Her Chase You right now. I haven't read David D's book in while so I'm going to read again soon. This may be a little long but I'd like to share my story with the community.
I've never been really good with women but I did get to a point when I was comfortable with them when I first went to college. Also alone for the first time in my life.
No coincidence I was in the best shape of my life at this time, (still not ripped mind you but fit) made eye contact, talked freely about my interests and had several good looking girls on the line in the span of a few years. It recently occurred to me that I don't act that way anymore, back then I did brave things, I was nervous but I did them. Now, I'm only 26 and I'm out of shape, I rarely leave home, I feel nervous around people, and struggle to make eye contact. I have a lack of confidence in my appearance and expressing myself, I avoid sharing my interests with people, etc.
But I'm ready to stop existing, get outside and start living! I want to see all sorts of things, do things, attract people and meet women. Sleeping with women isn't even the goal here. It's something bigger, it's about improving my quality of life. I just know that the best is yet to come.
I'm not sure where to start but I know it's gonna come down to leaving my comfort zone (all my life fear has been my #1 motivator or demotivator as it were) little bit by little bit. I've started working out again and I'd like to begin the PUA by taking baby steps out in the real world and maybe complement that with testing the waters online, because I know it's a little less intimidating.
Any help or advice I can get from you guys is appreciated. We're all in this together, right?