Something I've always been confused by. I was reading that men with lots of options are picky because they can be and because they are good with women.
I've never been good with women, but I have always been picky. Every once in a while I'm not because of mood/hormones but most of the time I am pretty choosy when it comes to women. I've also used it as an excuse not to pursue a girl though, like if a girl is attractive but doesn't seem interesting in other ways, I won't approach her (forget the fact that I'm afraid to approach any women regardless). But like seeing women day to day, usually the only thing you have to go on is looks, I guess this could be good for practice since I don't really know much about them. My questions are:
A. How did I get this way? Shouldn't I be more desperate given my history?
B. Perhaps should I be a little more open?
C. How can I turn this to my advantage in meeting new women?
In fact, I have a girl friend that tells me stories about all the insane and stupid things boys have done to get her attention and she's only about a 7. In a lot of ways I'm ahead of the curve because I don't chase girls, or displaying wussy behavior. but I'm also not really moving anywhere, and I think I betray lack of confidence in other ways, like body language, and not wanting to talk about my interests, etc.
Any insight into this would be most appreciated. Maybe someone had a similar experience.