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Thread: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

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    Default College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    Fck. So cold approach has been bad. I have been rejected the few times I get the courage to approach. It is hard to just brush off and it still hurts after a while. Fortunately, the girls were not perfect 10s by any stretch so thats the only condolence for my rejections. (most were soft rejections where I can tell they werent interested and/or wouldnt respond to my texts afterwards)
    Anyhow, Idc too much since these were straight up cold approaches without any IOIs. The girls below have actually some association with me beforehand in class and shit and they are interested I think.

    On the other hand, there is like 2-3 girls in classes that may be interested. They are all pretty. One I think looks at me when Im not looking. But Ive talked to her once and since then Ive caught her hanging out and seemingly flirting with a few guys and she said hey to me in a condescending, Im better than you way. Ive been fking warned about these girls who lead you on and today I had the chance to talk to her since she ran into me after class (high chance it was just luck and not like she was purposely passing by) as she walked by but I was just like 'yeah forget it. she's acting like shes too good for me' I am too inexperienced to be burned or lead on. I really dont want to deal with that right now and its kind of happen once before already pretty badly.

    Second girl again Im unsure but I think she eyes me too. She has guys hanging around her but she acts pretty neutral and uninterested to them. I got the courage to talk to her once and she was really nice to me and seemed fairly interested which was quite a shock. Ive caught her seemingly hovering around me a few times almost like she wants me to talk to her but I didnt know what to fking do so I just ignored her like I didnt see her. She has many guys it seems and I am not that popular so yeah it would be nice to be just friends but I dont think I want anything more or freaking huge competition. I think I know what to do here: just stop being a pussy and talk to her and befriend her when I see her. I think the reason why I haven't is because a few girls on campus are fking arrogant or some sh1t and they like ignore me when I say Hi when I bump into them so I dont want to be that fking friendly in fear of this happening again but I think this girl is really friendly and not like that.

    Third girl is just this random girl I see who Ive never met but I see around. I dont think she noticed me but today I eyed her quite a bit and she eyed me back quite a bit. On top of that, she seemed to like keep hovering around me super close. I dont know what to fking do here because 1. I dont want to fking cold approach it with super direct 'you're cute' because it will probably work worse since shes shown blatant IOIs already and this is not a fking club. It's a daytime environment and its a girl I bump into fairly often. and I dont want to come off too indirect, which leads nowhere either and is fking creepy even if she has shown some IOIs.

    Lastly, there are a ton of hot girls everywhere and I find myself hovering around them for like ever. I dont know what the fk it is but it's a very high risk environment to approach directly anywhere and again indirect comes off weird and wont lead anywhere. "Can you get me a fork? "Sure." *leaves

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    As far as your first point with rejection, it sucks BUT it is also a valuable tool for self assessing.

    Based off of this it seems like you have some aa. If these girls are really hovering, you need to use that window and expand from their.

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    aa all around. Fear is mostly from fear of huge repercussions like developing a reputation or seeing them real often or embarrasing myself in front of many others

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    See I wouldt mind the reputation. Call me egocentric.

    My aa has to do with the target. To an extent I'd be much more embarrassed about falling on my shoe lace than a girl pushing me off. Trick is not to care about how others perceive you. In my brief experience the only time I have felt embarrassed was when this HB invited me to her place and I turned her down, that was bad. But thats WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY past your current predicament

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    I understand that and I dont mind a reputation as a ladies man but I will only get a reputation as the rejected guy who hits on every person he sees or some other thing like that which is bad in my environment at college but you are probably right I should stop giving a crap

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    College is kinda like a uterus. People develop in it and it replenishes itself on a regular basis.

    Probably the best thing about college game is that there is a new influx of people every semester. Reputations only last about that long. (Trust me, I'm a 5th-year "junior") feel free to take a risk every now and then because in college you have the ability to simply re-invent others' perceptions of you by tweaking your behavior every five months or so.

    Also reputations tend to stay within fairly defined circles with little overlap. Think of each of your environments as a different (extremely large) set. The "biology class set" might see you as "the witty guy who makes jokes" while the three girls you walk with from biology class might find you charming (because you run cocky/funny on them). The "set" of the food court staff might wink and nod because to them you're the guy who runs day game all the time, while the "set" who lives at your dorm sees you as the robe-wearing drunk guy who's alway bringing people back (that's how I blew myself out of every chick who lives in my dorm xD).

    But generally it sounds like you're just too much in your head / still need to realize an abundance Mindset. The idea of overcoming aa is, in my opinion, a myth - anxiety will come with every approach. It's just a matter of jumping off that cliff with the thought "if this doesn't work, I'll find another."

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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    its not as "high risk" as you think unless you're in a really small 1 building 2 floor college,Ive been in college for awhile and Ive learned that cold approaches works best for girls who are not in your class a simple "hey,I see you all the time,tell me your name" should get you through the door, for girls in your class go a bit under the radar for example I like saying "I literally did not understand a word the professor was saying, what are you doing after this?"in my case they usually say "nothing" I take them on an Instant Date.you gotta ask yourself would you rather approach and possibly get rejected,get her number,get laid if your campus has dorms,get a kiss,make a new friend that would introduce you to her friends or do you want to build your rep as the creepy guy who hovers? A females attraction towards you only last for a brief time period then they're on to the next guy ....You dont want to spend your college years wondering what if
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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    She has many guys it seems and I am not that popular so yeah it would be nice to be just friends but I dont think I want anything more or freaking huge competition.

    You get it, Peel? That's exactly why she wants you. She could have any of those other guys and she's well aware of that, but she wants you. Why? Because you don't care. It's not for the right reason, but the result is the same. You're probably showing indifference to her because you think she's out of your league when you should be showing indifference because she's just another girl, but the result is the same. She wants you because you aren't giving her preferential treatment. Get your inner game straight and you can have her.

    I have one of these girls. She's beautiful, smart, independent, the works. But I don't want her. I don't know why, I just don't. Guys hit on her WHILE I'M WITH HER. That's how high value she is, but I still don't care. I only spend time with her occasionally to appease her and take a study break. She could have any guy she wanted but she chooses to chase me. Why? Because I don't give her preferential treatment. She's just a girl. She gives me sh*t tests and ultimatums all the time. She's ridiculously forward (and I love it). Some of our texts look like this:

    Her: "Come over and sleep with me tonight."

    Me: "Not tonight."

    Her: "Why"

    Me: "I have too much homework. I will another time"

    Her: "You always say that."

    Me: *Done responding*

    __________

    Her: "Let's get dinner tonight, then we'll write. Work is lonely " (She answers phones after hours at our college so it's usually sitting around on Facebook and stuff for her)

    Me: "Maybe"

    Her: "No. No maybe. Yes or no. I deserve better than that."

    Me: "You're right. You do, but I can't give you a yes because I'm busy, so I guess that means no. If you're not cool with that find some other guy."

    Her: "But I want you."

    Me: *Done responding*




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    Default Re: College - hovering girls that may like me and me hovering

    That was a bit of gold there. Many theories conflict so I dont want to get too in my head but yes I can see exactly where you're coming from. I do that too and its not always because I think she's out of my league. (it's not much due to that because I am too chicken to even approach these out of my league girls as I unfortunately demonstrated today a few times)
    I dont know I just feel indifferent to her at times because I naturally know it attracts her and because honestly I deep down know shes not all that. Most of the hot girls here I realize wont be worth much after graduation because they had sh1t grades. It's really a turn off for me.

    Anyhow, thanks all. Today - just an update - a few chickened out - a few bad interactions , one with that girl - I talked to her and stuff and I was just in a depressed mood which I didnt realize until later that just slowly came from chickening out from approaches too much. It caused me to pretty much display myself as a beta to her: I mumbled, spoke softly, had awkward silences, asked questions over again, etc.

    Afterwards, I spent a good deal of time worrying about all my interactions like I had screwed it up but then I kept thinking: the alpha males I know wouldnt give a single sh1t even if they did screw up. They have abundance. You shouldnt care either.

    As for approaches, you guys are right. I think the fear is in my head and statistically there is a low chance of humiliation society-wise. I think I am just making it out to be wayyy more big of a deal than it is. I think it was caused by me bumping into this girl who chose not to give her number like 4-5 times in a single couple days. But in reality, I have to realize this ain't such a small campus. I hope I really believe that and implement it soon as Im already a junior and wont be sticking for a 5th year.... I gotta stop chickening out.
    On the bright side, Ive gotten a few cold approaches in over the weeks but it takes hours of working up the courage and some days I dont do it (like today which caused me to unconciously progress in depression and give off a bad vibe when I came across that girl but who the fark cares). Sometimes I only have a few seconds to act and then the moments gone and all I see are sets of girls or average and below looking girls for the next half hour

    Regrettably, Ive dodged some bullets by chickening out. Was gonna approach one super hot girl but didnt. Next day, I see her sitting for breakfast with like 2-3 super ripped typical bros. Saw her again walking around and was gonna approach. She bumps into a girl and they chat for like 10 seconds. Bumps into another Bro and she shouts to him and starts a long-as convo so I just pass her. Her appearance was pretty hot so it was uncertain territory approaching her but I gauged her to be semi-nice until all of these Big bros came around. I'm average and on the skinny side


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