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Thread: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

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    Default What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    Below is a hypothetical conversation:

    I saw a girl on the street.
    Me: Hi, I saw you from a distance, and now Iím drawn here by you.
    Hot girl:What do you want to do?
    Me: I wanna talk to you.
    Hot Girl:Sorry, Iím busy.
    Me: Thatís OK. Iím also a little bit busy. May I have your phone number so we can have a cup of coffee later?
    Hot girl:Why do you want that?
    Me:I want to know you.
    Hot girl:Why do you want to know me?
    Me:....(Don't know what to say)

    If it was you, how would you approach this girl?


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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    I would start by getting rid of the hypothetical routines. (They NEVER go anything like you plan in your head.)

    The best approach is to just walk up & talk to her.
    Be flirty & friendly from the very first moment.

    The "opener" is an unnecessary stress that guys put themselves through. Many of them think you have to have a clever "pickup line" type phrase.... but that's soooo wrong!

    Being confident, interesting, unique & FUN is what works.
    Be enthusiastic! Just walk up to her & reach out for a hug, saying something like: "Heeey there! I'm sooooo glad you're here! I thought I'd be stuck with a bunch of boring little girls, but YOU look like you're bringin' the fun!"

    Don't try to have a conversation or get to know her better... (= friend zone)

    Flirt flirt flirt flirt!
    Make her laugh & smile. Make sure she's having fun!
    THAT is what makes girls want to meet up again.



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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    I would start by getting rid of the hypothetical routines. (They NEVER go anything like you plan in your head.)

    The best approach is to just walk up & talk to her.
    Be flirty & friendly from the very first moment.

    The "opener" is an unnecessary stress that guys put themselves through. Many of them think you have to have a clever "pickup line" type phrase.... but that's soooo wrong!

    Being confident, interesting, unique & FUN is what works.
    Be enthusiastic! Just walk up to her & reach out for a hug, saying something like: "Heeey there! I'm sooooo glad you're here! I thought I'd be stuck with a bunch of boring little girls, but YOU look like you're bringin' the fun!"

    Well, I am not very shy, but I still don't know what to say. It is not fun even if you are confident but do not know what to say. At least you know to say something like as you mentioned:"Heeey there! I'm sooooo glad you're here! I thought I'd be stuck with a bunch of boring little girls, but YOU look like you're bringin' the fun!" So actually you have something to say. It is necessary to be confident, but it is not enough. I think we still need to have something to say on our mind, even if we are confident.

    Don't try to have a conversation or get to know her better... (= friend zone)

    Good advice!!!

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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    1) Avoid ambiguity
    her 'I'm busy' (actually any girl who said that to me I wouldn't bother with anyway haha)
    you 'Im also sort of busy'. NO YOUR NOT! Your talking to her!!! And your not a 'sort of' guy. You are or you are not.
    Whatever she says use it to your advantage. her 'Im busy' you 'Im your study break - flat white? Cappacino?' you 'Well now your multi-tasking talking to a cute guy aswell - welcome to the 21st century' etc
    2) Most girls will not say they are busy upfront or ask 'why do you want to know' or 'why do you want to know me'. I can't say that any great looking girl has ever said that to me on approach. Only if I ask someone Im getting to know 'what color panties are you wearing?' will I occassionally get 'why do you want to know'. Just answer short and confidently 'curious'. Put it back on her 'I like making new friends - don't you?? '. You do not owe her a physics explanation for anything so you can also ignore it 'yeah ok, so anyway....'. Or neg her 'why do I want to know you? What am I the first guy you have ever spoken with haha' keep it playful. Never get angry or condescending. Or stumped by her questions. Girls like a smart guy and your hypothetical questions I think are alluding to what to do when you meet a smart cheeky women. If you are superior in confidence on approach they will not ask you that rubbish. Avoid being weak from the get go and you will avoid silly questions from girls - or you will move straight away on from them to better girls.
    3) While looks is not as essential to a women as it is a man, girls still judge you on looks. Most of the initial attraction is done in a blink of an eye based on appearence and not the first words out of your mouth (unless they are really bad or silly words). All the confidence and talking is really just to expand from that orbit. How you look will beat your opening line unless you truly have a remarkable gift of the gab. People naturally seek out partners physically similar to themselves.
    4) 'I want to know you' basically sounds like 'I want to fark you'. Again if you must say something keep it short and direct to something smaller in magnitude 'I liked your smile' 'I like the way your twiddling your pen'. Put everything back on her and to dhv you. 'I like your smile and wanted to see if there was a fun person behind it...' which subliminally negs her if she previously said she was 'busy'. Be entertaining 'why do I want to get to know you? For the same reason supernovae create the elements, the same reason galaxies cluster together, the same reason, the planets spin around the sun, the same reason flowers blossom in spring, the same reason women like shoes - it is my cosmic destiny, it is electro magnetic holographic energy beyond my control' (im not saying you should actually say that, its just off the top of my head craziness, but what I mean is have a sharp intelligent fun come back no matter what she says). Keep it playful. It is how you say it that counts. Just dont say anything silly and most of the time you will succeed.

    People who usually do not have much to say do not read or actually do anything interesting. Readers are leaders. Read some books man! Buy a whacky way cool jacket that is unique. Have the coolest sunglasses in town. Have at your finger tips amazing quotes, lyrics that make an arena cry, comebacks as sharp as tacs, stories that could inspire movies. Sensible shoes. If you stand there like an idiot in front of a women that's exactly what you will be. If you have just been base jumping off a cliff you will have stories to impress. You can't fake being interesting, you have to live it.

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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    @Whitedragon, thanks for your reply. It is really helpful.
    Here I have another question. If a girl says to me, "You are weird." How can I use it to my advantage? How can I smartly turn it into a compliment on her?

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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    I LOVE it when a girl makes those types of comments.

    That my friend, is a sh!t test. And girls only do that when they're interested in a guy.

    If she says, "You are weird"....
    You have a TON of options for replying:

    "Oh sweetie, you have NO idea... and I'm not even warmed up yet!" *wink & smile

    "I know right!?... I just start oozing weirdness whenever a cute, dorky little girl talks to me." *wink & playfully nudge her with your elbow

    "And?? ...Oh now don't stop there! What about wacky, dorky, silly, interesting, intriguing... feel free to chime in anytime..." *Big smile & a little laughter

    "Well thank you! I think YOU are pretty stinkin' cute yourself!" *Smile & hold strong eye contact.

    These responses show playfulness, confidence AND that you're unfazed by her "weird" comment. (Plus they're flirty & will start pushing her attraction buttons.)



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    Default Re: What if a girl asks you, "Why do you want to know me?"

    Quote Originally Posted by jingfunny View Post
    @Whitedragon, thanks for your reply. It is really helpful.
    Here I have another question. If a girl says to me, "You are weird." How can I use it to my advantage? How can I smartly turn it into a compliment on her?
    IMO there are only two reasons why a girl would say that:
    1) because you are being weird. Stop it.
    2) because you do indeed have a weird sense of humor and you don't really care or possibly so does she, so she states 'you're weird', almost robotically because she either seeks validation, (because she also has a weird sense of humor?)... or she simply doesn't care and it sounds like something girly to say. In any case say something nonchalant like 'I'm not weird I'm being avarte guard, so you going to join me for a coffee over there?', 'I'm not weird, I'm creative - I'd like to paint you but your beauty exceeds even my galactic talent' wink, 'only as weird as the girl I'm talking to, duality, takes two to tango - 2 shots bartender' etc. Always rise beyond competition with a girl and escalate it towards the TWO of you being TOGETHER.

    Who can ever define 'weird'?. Men are weird. Women are weird. Nature is weird. It would be an excellent accusation for a girl to state with full potential to mine.


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