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Thread: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

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    Default How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Title says it all really. This is a girl in my social circle and I don't want it to be awkward. We went on a few dates and I am just not into her. She keeps calling and thinks we're "an item" now that my sister uploaded a picture of us on FB and tagged me in it. What's the best way to let her down besides just ignoring her, I know that will make it awkward when we end up hanging out.

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Sounds like you got yourself a code 3 crazy clinger. First try softly (LJBF) just tell her she's cool, you can hang out, but you aren't an item, and you aren't really looking to date people in your social circle. If she doesn't get it, then start distancing yourself socially, explain your predicament to the rest of the social circle under the guise of asking how to handle it. If she still doesn't get it, then go merciless, date a girl in the social circle or date another girl and bring her in.

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    I completely agree with Autismus. You do have to tell her that you think she's cool and see her as a friend. Be nice about the whole thing and distance yourself if need be.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Let her know. This is very important. You don't want to lead her on anymore. Get her on the phone or in person and tell her that you just want to remain friends. Make sure you are clear on this. Be nice and sweet, but make sure she gets the hint. If she is pissed and is a bitch to you etc, just let it be for awhile. This is her trying to get over you.

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Solid advice from the 3 guys above me.
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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Yes, I would in person so can give her a clear understanding of what you want for yourself. Usually that over the phone leaves women with questions of what they did wrong and then you may have to ghet rid of them 1 or 2 more times in a more harsh fashion which I would want to avoid unless necessary.

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    Well it didn't work out too well, ignoring her had the opposite effect. She kept calling and texting more. I told her politely that we should just be friends and she just said ok and still acts like we're going to continue dating.

    I'm just going to be firm with her and tell her I don't want a relationship or something like that.

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    Default Re: How to tell a girl that you're not interested

    I know what you mean... I don't answer the text but a lil time will allow her to meet someone else that will at least get you a lil space... If it's that bad you can change the number and don't give it to her... a really good way for her to get the picture...


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