So I hope someone can relate to this.
After getting into this stuff... so many times I can look at an interaction and actually "see" the phase shifts, the tests, the Push-Pull, the framesetting (by the guy AND the girl).
Whether its when I'm in a set or when I actually see another guy approach a girl, it's very weird, I feel very aware of how the interaction is going and what stage it is at or where it is succeeding/failing. So for that, I feel grateful, I've learned a lot.
But here is my sticking point:
When I am in set, I still run out of the "right" things to say.
An example being, I see she is interested but the conversation is too boring or whatever... I need to change the frame to a more secual one... I know it. I can see it... but I don't know HOW to do it, I don't know the right words.
Does that make any sense or just seem silly? I feel very aware in an interaction but often fail to know WHAT to do or say in the moment to change it or move it to another stage unless she is complying a lot in which case it's pretty easy as she is moving it in the same direction.
Is there specific resources or material people might suggest? I've found great articles on understanding this stuff and employing the mindsets I need to but I find the Mindset I have is not always being conveyed well in my words/actions.
Anyway, thanks for reading, all feedback is very welcome.