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    Slayer22 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    Is it me or does anyone else read all this great info and experience, but feel like its just not gonna work? Dont get me wrong. I dont deny anyone else's experience, but I have great fear. When I think about approaching a beautiful woman, I start thinking about: wait! Im not charismatic, I wouldnt know what to say..or The women will just be annoyed or hostile when I say an opener. I also feel like I might not experience the evolution you guys experience in regards to getting better and becoming naturals. I also know a lot of this is could be nonsense because I have yet started. Someone told me to say "hi" and smile to 15 women?

    Where should i start? Im reading "The Natural" and "The Game"...

    Please help community, I want this real bad and am willing to put in the work

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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    Sounds like you have a bad case of Approach Anxiety! (aa for short) I would either go to youtube and search PUA approach anxiety or search the forums for it here (we have a search function in the top set of tools).
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    Swish is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    Well if you're reading the Game you should read the opening page on the first chapter, he talks about his personality. You create your personality.

    Approach is half the battle, if you do it and get rejected so what. If you say you are going to put the work in then you should probably be fine

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    Slayer22 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    Appreciate the input guys. Its time to get out there.

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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    hii there. dude im also a newbie into pickup. i read "The game" and right now im doing the stylelife challenge. the book neil strauss wrote called rules of the game. im on day 3. you should buy it. i also been practicing cold reading and stuff like that.As for the anxiety when going up to a women practice talking to ramdom people on the super market. doesnt matter how old just go and make a small talk. can be about anything. the weather, asking for opinion about something, just anything. go up to five people everyday till u feel no anxiety. get the book im telling you about.

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    Slayer22 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    yessir, thanks a lot. will buy asap and share results.

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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    There is a whole tab full of threads on Approach Anxiety, but the bottom line is that you just Have to go for it once, after you open your first set, whether it goes well or they reject you, as you walk away you will be thinking "i have no clue why I made sucha big deal out of that." after that your comfort zone will expand exponentially. Honestly you will be surprised and a girl is very unlikely to freak on you for opening. More than likely the way or will go is she will be uninterested but too nice to say anything so you will waste two hours trying to keep the conversation going until it eventually dies and you move on to the next target. At least thats how it will go if your in a club. Just go for it
    If i get a guy some a$$, he gets it for a day; if i teach him how to get it for himself, he's tappin forever

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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    Hi I'm new to this Forum and this is my first post but let's just say I've been around. Practice practice practice. You probably have at least 10 opportunities a day to say something to a stranger. Do it! especially when it makes you uncomfortable. I feel this will help you build your confidence before you are smack dab in the middle of a lioness nest. This is how I began and it improved my game on so many levels.

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    Default Re: Is it me or does most everyone...just want to approach my first target

    im new here to but my job means i deal with public alot so i can sorta practice openers without them cottoning on tried it with a few people you work with for instance and dont pressurise yourself going straight for a ten work up to it ive done an 8 in a strip bar but they have to be sociable if they want your cash im going out this weekend with some mates and one thing i did notice its alot easier to approach women during the day they arent as jumpy try so day approaches maybe on some older women.

    Saying that though i do have aa i did see a 9.5 today and just couldnt get my legs to work to walk over and say hi as i tend to stammer and fall over my words when im nervous


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