how was your first time a approaching your target?
how was your first time a approaching your target?
haha i actually did my first approach (cold - not being introduced by mutual friends like normal) last night at some random bar, i'm not gonna lie i blew the set only cause my mind went blank after opening, so i just ejected politely and went back to my mate who was there with his mates
for me getting rid of aa is:
preparing what i'm gonna say before i go out (until i get comfortable / natural - lol),
not thinking about how i'm going to open when i'm doing it,
not thinking the woman is some princess
and most importantly, not giving a fqk about what happens cause i have nothing to lose
it really isn't any different to asking a shopkeeper about an item...haha it's all in the head -_- don't listen to it
i went to a Bar called the Breakfast Club in London...
This was all before i knew about PUAing... i had some natural game with women i already knew...
and i already had a great ability for making friends but usually during the day....
so i struggled in a crowded bar where everyone was in groups already...
i queued at the bar and i clocked this HB7 in a 4set next to me...
inside my head i was like "Talked to her... OMG just open ya mouth...Whats wrong with you its something so simple just say hi for goodness sake"
ive never frozen up before when talking to girls or anyone really so i was getting agry at myself....
i Plucked up the courage and said something like... "You getting anything nice to drink?"
she answered outta politeness "Yeah just something for me and my friends"
That was it i couldnt think of anything else to say and she turned back around....
i managed to talk to a few guys really briefly told em i was out alone looking to make new friends and they told me i was brave...
i spent the rest of the night wandering around alone standing with my back up against the wall and on my phone texting different ones....
needless to say i left after about 2hrs of misery and got on the train back home lol
its alot easier to make friends in my home town because i recognise alot of the people... whether because they work in town or shop there some because we went to school or college together...
its alot EASIER locally but to better yaself u need to reach out and go beyond....
thats the first and last time ive been to a bar in London Alone.... Next time ima bring a wing and now i have the knowledge of PUAing i might stand more of a chance now lol
first time approaching was because of peer pressure.
it ended up pretty bad because i was trying to prove myself to some "friends"
lol that was before summer break, now that its school time and i got some major skills thru summer, school is soo freakin easy with girls. i cud just hit anyone up smoothly but i love my wierd and wacky approaches cuz its soo mee unlike guys who play it all cool and timid.
Well, I am from India and the concept of a pick up artist is something that has yet to latch on here, fully.There is a tinsy-winsy community of pick up artists here but I can tell ya that only a few of 'em know anything that is worthwhile. I have always been a bit of a non-conformist and have been intrigued by knowledge that is considered esoteric. Being a PUA here is like being part of a cabalistic cult.Since here women aren't that used to being approached and that makes it something of a risky proposition - it's a cultural thing and it blows.
The reason I wanted to get to be a pick up artist is coz I am a bit of a sociopath myself. All my life I have been observing people, using and manipulating them but then again never truly living my life. I always lurked back in the shadows as if I were a living non-entity. I wasn't bad with women per se but it was mostly luck and what made it all the more difficult was the fact I happened to be an introvert.
This happened a year ago and I remember being just out of a long term relationship feeling miserable and lost.I just wanted to rekindle the magic again.
So the first approach I did was with another wannabe pick up artist.He gave me the low down on how it all works and I still didn't have a clue about 'inner game' or anything of that sort.I hadn't read anything either until then. I just said to myself 'I am gonna do this coz I am batsh1t friggin' insane'.
So there she was standing there at the way station. Pretty girl - easy 7.So I go up and walk to her - nervous but I try not to let it show. Use an indirect opener'Hey hi, listen, don't freak out - I am a journalist, researching an article on body art' and the success of my first approach was - we spoke for nearly 15 minutes discussing tattoos and what not. Call it beginner's luck if you will and I saw this girl again the next day where my friend approached her. She ignored him and waved out to me instead - I realized then that this wasn't some form of medieval quackery at work but there was a certain method to the madness.I wish I had closed that one but I was so friggin' nervous back then.
I reckon that in India it is best if you were to use a cold approach coz it mitigates the risk of a an untoward situation.
I am glad I started off on this journey - I wouldn't go so far as calling myself a PUA yet but I suppose I am prodigiously getting to be there . And I haven't sarged in about a year but I think it is time that I got back there only so that I can make my life on this planet something that is worthwhile.... I am a nihilist after all and this is like finding or giving a purpose to life.
So the first approach I did was with another wannabe pick up artist.
i don't know about this, he was either AFC or a RAFC / PUA :P
and can't you just ask your parents to tee you up with a chick? that's what my mate did rofl (he's indian too) and he married her and they're living happily ever after
I have had a spate of gfs etc and I still get nervous as fark around women but it was all due to lucl. Just today a girl tried to chat me up at work and I froze up. Funny thing is this girl I was seeing is way hotter and I am quite comfortable 'round her. Maybe it is like putting on a different skin.
I could do the internet dating thing but I have no intention of getting married anytime soon. Besides, its tough being an atheist in this country.