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Thread: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

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    Default Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    Hi guys, not sure if this is the right forum but I wanted to present a scenario and get different ideas on what I should/ shouldn't do

    • When I get on the bus to work in the mornings, I wear dre beats headphones playing r and b/ (subconsciously hinting sexuality to her? If she thinks of me she'll thing of sexual music that makes her feel good?) rap music quite loud (bear with me, a poor opening statement, but it may lead to an opener*).
    • There is an extremely hot girl who sits not far from me and has done for the last couple of weeks ( blond, nicely dressed etc 17/ 18 : goes to college) ( I'll see her playing with her hair a little, looking in my direction quickly) and the other day she gave me a massive smile and I gave it back for like 3 seconds then we just carried on. So I saw her again this morning and gave her a smile ( admittedly a tight lipped smile: I was tired it was like 7 20 lol) and she didnt really look back or react.
    • Then at lunch ( because she goes to college near where I work I saw her from about 10 feet away I guess.. we made eye contact and i smiled and she flashed that big smile again and I could hear her say 'Hiyaaaaa' quite loud. ( If I was loser that would have been her opening me?!) Course she then went and sat down with her friends and I got back into the conversation I was in...


    • What would you guys recommend now? Approach her in a humourous way on the bus smiling like 'I see you dancing ( see loud headphones above*) and do a little dance to make her laugh then sit and talk with her ( could be turned into a neg: 'There's something wrong with your dance let me show you how to do it better / you re doing it wrong etc etc)
    • Approach her like we've been friends for ages and just talk to her? Tips for the conversation? I do watch out for IOLs and read body language reasonably well but tips are welcome...

    Advice please

    I'll write more tomorrow but I'll read this late tonight and might do it in the morning but yeah I will report and appreciate any advice/ tips/ ideas given

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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    I’m no expert myself, I’ve done quite a few day approaches so I’ll just give you my opinion.
    Well firstly I don’t really get the whole r&b music being subconsciously sexual if someone explains that to me I’ll be more than grateful.

    It seems like you did get some ioi’s at least that’s what they seem like. Eye contact with strangers you never spoke with is a huge tell of interest. The key to eye contact with women is never be the first one to break it because it shows the girl that you are not alpha enough to keep eye contact. If she breaks eye contact first and then after like 10sec she looks back that’s a big IOI if she smiles that’s also very good. That’s just a side note about eye contact.

    Honestly I don’t really get your whole idea about opening with music related topic like dancing or what not. In this case the best opener would be situational. For example you see her looking over some papers you can assume she is studying for a test or something. You can say something along the lines of “I see you’re studying really hard must be a really difficult test” anything that just opens her to conversation where you can follow with something related and you can neg her like she seems really nerdy or something like that.

    Before you do the situational opener you can ease into the opener statement with a simple general question like “hey do you know what time it is” and then you can even say(sarcastically) “I just love waking up at ex 6 and taking the bus to work just get’s my day started, how about you do you feel the same” and then you just run with the rest. You can also use the direct opener, but if you are new to this and don’t feel confident enough to use it I don’t recommend that.

    From my experience regardless of what everyone else says indirect openers such as especially opinion openers do work during the day on the street and every other place. You just need to root it really well and place a time constraint. If she comes by your work you can approach her simply by saying “hey don’t you take the same bus in the morning as I do?”, then you can even neg her by saying “I remember you because you wore once the same sweater that I bought for my ex girlfriend like a year ago”(neg + dhv)

    Those are just some of my thoughts of the top of my head. Tell me what you think what you would improve or what’s good. Let me know.

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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    You don't need an opener...
    You two have already made eye contact & exchanged smiles on several occasions.

    Take off the headphones & go flirt with her!!!



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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    I agree with T-Mal. Just be funny, next time you see her ask her if she's following you.

    "Are you following me, I see you all the time". Smile and I am sure she will laugh about it and open up.

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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    I used to deal with this sort of scenario constantly in bars and such. Quite often if she's making some serious eye contact and adding in a smile, that means there's some interest. She might just respond very well to you walking up to her, removing the headphones so she knows you're ready to listen, then find something to compliment her with but be sincere, not cheesy. Keep it simple, sometimes that's all it takes to break the ice. From there on your personality will come out and hopefully she digs it.

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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    Thanks for your [posts, I haven't really seen this girl again as I've started work earlier plus I don't really want to approach her at 7 30 on the bus I'm still VERY interested in her though so thanks for all your posts.. i'll write if I do move forward with this one.. I really want to

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    Default Re: Scenario with very cute blond... advice please

    T Then The Next! Come on dude!

    Couple of weeks and she has been throwing those IOIs at you, next time you see her say this

    "Hey, aint seen you for a while. I thought you were stalking me so i started getting to work earlier (cheeky grin) What you studying?"

    Boom you're in, from her answer you can use the nouns to further the conversation or maybe it triggers an opportunity to dhv. If you don't see this girl again then take it as a lesson not to wait like an AFC
    Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars


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