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Thread: got called out for freezing out coworker, in the "friend zone"

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    Default got called out for freezing out coworker, in the "friend zone"

    so i work with this girl, not directly but at the same place. i was really interested but seemingly been friendzoned, we went out to a movie once, she brought a friend to dinner and then wouldnt kiss me after the movie.

    she's flaked a few times since then and pulled some weird stuff asking me to do a favor for her that crossed the line a little with me.

    so ive kind of freezed her out, im not inviting her out anytime soon and i havent been initiating any chatting on facebook (she was chatting me up all the time)

    today she sent me a facebook message along the lines of (i live in colombia so it was in spanish) you dont want to say hi to me.....now i have been not seeking this girl out but the few times I have run into her at work I've said hello and smiled but I stopped seeking her out and stopped all Kino, just a hello. and really there's been no opportunity ot have a conversation either, so its not like I'm being rude.

    anyways how should I respond to this? I was thinking of just playing dumb and if she accuses me of being upset telling her she has an active imagination. I'm pretty sure she knows exactly what's going on, I made my interest pretty obvious and there are some pictures of me up on facebook wiht a girl I've hung out with over the last week or so.

    wow that ended up being kind of long, but any advice would be appreciated....basic ally how to not say "no, I'm not upset, everything is totally cool with you flaking and sending mixed signals but not doing anything" but also not showing it has affected me.

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    Default Re: got called out for freezing out coworker, in the "friend zone"

    so, when she sent me that message I told her I was cleaning my apartment and I had to run and that we could talk later.....apparently she defriended me from facebook...what?

    I'm not going to lie I've been a little crazy about this girl for a couple months. I'm not trying to end all possibilities but how the heck should I respond to that?

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    Default Re: got called out for freezing out coworker, in the "friend zone"

    I had a girl do that to me before... She un-friended me for some weird reason.

    So, I turned it into a joke, laughed it off & gave her credit for being "tough".

    I sent her a message & a new friend request & was like, "Dayummm guurrrrll!! That'll teach me to piss you off! LOL! Way to play the Ace Card!! I didn't know you had it in ya. (I'm proud of you for showing some backbone.) "

    She accepted the friend request & messaged me back shortly afterward & laughed about it.

    It worked because I expressed confidence & that I was unfazed by it.
    Also- my compliment to her made her feel good too.

    (But notice I never apologized for anything)


    You could try something like that if you think she's the type to be receptive to it.


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    Default Re: got called out for freezing out coworker, in the "friend zone"

    hmmm that sounds interesting.....i was a little taken aback i was being completely honest when i said i was cleaning the house

    i dont know this situation has gotten a littel out of hand, i teach english at an institute here, she works in the office and when we first started flirting we had hung out like one time with her sister and then they put her in my class. i kind of backed off because i dont want to put my job at risk. i joked with her that she was gonna cause me problems and she dropped my class, it was awkard for a bit then we started talking again......i dunno im still interested but getting turned off.

    i like that type of response though, will probably go taht route, i get teh sense she really likes attention

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    other ideas by the way? really am new to this and interested to hear any othe rtakes


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