If a girl shows some interest in me, should I show my interest in her, too? Maybe I should reward her? I've heard that we should reward a girl for her behavior which we want and punish a girl for her behavior which we don't want(like). Or should I pretend that I am indifferent and I don't care? A girl showed some interest in me, but I didn't show my interest back to her, instead, I pretended to be cold and not interested in her interest in me, I think subconsciously I wanted to convey a message to her, "I'm desirable, so I am not interested in you." In the past, when I showed my interest in a girl, which I often did, they also took it as granted and thought that they were more desirable and didn't give a sh*t to my interest in her, but of course on the surface they still behaved politely. Any ideas?