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Thread: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

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    Default Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    Attraction building and comfort building, which should come first? I think attraction building comes first. Can someone confirm it? Also I know we can use push&pull, dhv, Banter(including negs, role-playing, role reversal, prizing) to build attraction, are there other ways to do it?

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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    Yes attraction first always. Read a book called The Mystery Method. It will give you the step by step process and explain everything.
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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    Jing ....
    Comfort without attraction = friend zone.

    ALWAYS create/ build curiosity & attraction before moving forward.
    (ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS)

    As far as your other question goes.....
    Just follow your natural male instincts!! That's what we have them for.


    I'm a little disturbed by the increasing number of guys who are totally clueless when it comes to knowing what to do, after they meet a girl.

    What is this world coming to???


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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    If it helps I've found innuendo to be really helpful and you can normally draw it out of anything...

    The trick is to start small and then gradually become more overt in what you're talking about...

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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    I blame the media! Lol you have a point TMal. That's why I just try to telling myself that I was there myself before and how I wanted someone to talk to me.

    Comfort building conveys interest because you are "getting to know her." Why would you want to get to know someone you just met? This is how women think. By trying to get to know her before attraction you're basically saying that you have decided you are interested solely based on her looks. She has to EARN your interest.
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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    i have to agree with these guys, attraction building is the most important part of game. you have to keep building attraction in the girl from the second you meet her till you the day you leave her. otherwise you will get friendzoned and she will leave you for a guy who is better at creating attraction in her

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    Default Re: Attraction and comfort, which should come first

    I'm a little disturbed by the increasing number of guys who are totally clueless when it comes to knowing what to do, after they meet a girl.

    What is this world coming to???
    Nail on the head T-Mal, it as though some people are just not taking in the information given to them as they read it or are just not reading it in general. If you don't understand something re read it, over and over until it is hammered into your brain. Every book, every piece of information is vital and gold for you to step forward in this game. Also practise is vital.

    I've been on the forums for a few months now and there seems to be a lot of arbitrary questions and threads on subjects which are just not that important in terms of the fact they can be read and explained in videos, books and websites.

    More importantly, you need to practise, start small and work your way up that's how everyone makes it in any part of their lives. Do you think a mathematician started doing high level calculus right off the bat? No they started with their times tables when they where a kid or algebra when they where in their early teens. Did you think a guitarist started off playing extremely tricky songs like freebird as soon as he picked up a guitar? No, he started on easy songs, learning his scales and chords until he understood how to play these harder songs.
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