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    Default Approaching Strangers in general...

    Why is it whenever I approach strangers in general they all have this shitty attitude and don't want to talk ?

    I come in confident with great energy and charisma; yet people are just like 'Meh"


    Should i not waste my time with girls who have bad vibes and just MOVE on to someone else..



    Thats the thing i realized also; Some people just have really bad energy shitty outlook on life and there is nothing i feel i can do to win them over or get them attracted to me?


    With girls in general; a lot of them seem like serious bitches to me; Maybe i just cant seem to get past the "bitch" shield" although some conversations have gone a few minutes in length

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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Maybe your opener sucks? Try different things to get them engaged and you'll calibrate better

    True you can't open everyone, but a well calibrated pua can get past 10 minuts in say 50- 75% of the sets he opens
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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Probably your opener. Also, your vibe might feel fake or try hard. It seeps through

    You have to understand people might be in a rush or having a shitty day and not want to hear about your friend's jealous girlfriend, where as a genuine compliment will make you the person who turned a shitty day around or something

    If you use the right opener, you'll definitely get in set

    Also, never ever blame others when things don't work out. Victim mentality is a bad look and actually stifles your growth

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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    I Understand what you mean ;

    But don't you think sometimes you do everything correct and stuff just doesn't work out because her dog died last night or something? Maybe a bad example but u get what I'm trying to say?

    My point is I don't think its very good attitude to always be so self critical when it really was nothing you did?


    Thanks for the suggestions; I will work on different openers; but now I think my problem might be try hard...


    How do you avoid try hard? lol

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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Um where is this coming from? Like, are u nightgaming? Daygaming? Is it people at work or elsewhere?

    Because you say its strangers in general but saying good morning or something to strangers never gets me any bad replies... maybe indifferent ones, but rarely.
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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Im talking Daygame; and not just good morning good afternoon but engaging more small talk to develop into conversation

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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    U can literally use anything to start a conversation... from shared experiences (trains not time, service at a store) to commanalities (wearing same colors) or funny newsstory or amazing pic (as in u were looking at a newstory on your phone).

    One girl who i kinda knew had this bag with multi colored stripes going down it. These reminded me of a tree in ecuador called a rainbow tree. Started telling her about it, she was skeptical... we ended up being seperated at the place we were at. I immediately googled it to get a pic. Later that night, i got a chance to reconnect with her... showed the pic and continued the conversation.

    In general, i feel you must be outgoing, educated about some fun stuff that can be used for fun conversations and positive. No negging anything unless its a crazy celeb lol. Always be observant also! Girls Peacock! Notice outfits or color combos. A comment about you liking the color of her blouse or something doesnt have to sound AFC or needy!
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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Oh man I learned so much today; Did some day game sarging at the mall;

    I had NO idea how sensitive girls are to NEGS... Negs are freakin POWERFUL as hell;

    I accidentally triple Negged a "Hired Gun" that was a 6 maybe 7 and man she basically told me to "fark off" threatened to call security..

    I totally broke her down; she obviously had no esteem or confidence to begin with but still


    She totally busted my frame because i reacted in a defensive way and starting arguing with her;

    I will NOT neg average girls in the future anymore.. This whole experience was insane

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    Hey cire113,

    This game isn't easy. If it was then everyone would be doing it. From what i read it seems that you're not taking into account that all women are different, they react to various events, situations and interests. Its about finding out their passion and what get them talking about it. Then they will open up and want to hear your stories. They want to hear excitement and something original
    Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for the stars

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    Default Re: Approaching Strangers in general...

    Well the bonus is you are definitely learning. Be careful with negs as they can backfire just as quickly as they can work well(as you experienced).

    What I'm trying to get at is that you say you triple negged her and she threatened to call security. I feel you could of picked up on the first or even 2nd neg that it wasn't working. At that point you should of dropped the negging altogether or you should of spaced them out more. Negging more then once in short succession will seldom work IMO. Be careful what you neg about as well because you could be negging about something that she is very self-conscious about,ie her height,weight, ect.

    When you say you totally broke her down I HOPE you don't mean it in a bragging manner because that is not cool.

    Take it as a learning curve though


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