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    Default Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Hey guys I need some advice with talking to my ex

    I ran into her on campus a few weeks ago and we exchanged numbers. I sent her a text asking her to hang out one of these days and catch up and she agreed. A few days later I tell her to come help me prep for my Spanish midterm, she replied with "I'll try, depends on how much of this report I have left to write"....she never showed or even texted me to tell me that she won't make it. So I text her the next day with "thanks for helping me study! I aced my midterm all thanks to you!" - clearly being sarcastic and she replied with "sorry I totally forgot!"

    A few days pass and I try to strike a conversation with her by texting but it went nowhere, she replied once an hour after I sent my text and then not at all. I don't talk to her for 2 weeks and I text her saying "come walk my dogs with me...you haven't met my second one yet" She replied with "i'll let you know but I think i might be working"....no show, no reply again


    So what do I do here? I was thinking of just being straight up and saying something amongst these lines: "look i don't know if you've noticed but I've been trying to be friends with you because I liked you as a friend before I liked you as a girlfriend and you're not making this very easy. if you want nothing to do with me just tell me now so I don't waste our time"

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Do not send that lol. Never send that.

    Not to sound too mean, but it's called get a clue. She obviously isn't making any effort. How exactly did you exchange numbers?

    If you have any chance you need to start building attraction and stop trying to meet up. Each time you send an invite and she declines it lowers your value.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Do not send that lol. Never send that.

    Not to sound too mean, but it's called get a clue. She obviously isn't making any effort. How exactly did you exchange numbers?

    If you have any chance you need to start building attraction and stop trying to meet up. Each time you send an invite and she declines it lowers your value.
    How do I built attraction if I can never meet up with her?

    When I saw her, she smiled and waved so I walked up to her and said "hey long time no see" and she replied with "yeah you look great" gave me a hug, I gave her a FTC and we just chatted for a bit before I said "I gotta go, give me your number, let's hang out and catch up some more"

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Unfortunately you only have the phone for cot act so that's what you have to use unless you bump into her. Focus on getting her emotional state up. Like making her laugh, before you send an invite.

    It could make all the difference if she offered her number versus you asking for it. Why would she do it if she wasn't interested? Social courtesy.
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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    Unfortunately you only have the phone for cot act so that's what you have to use unless you bump into her. Focus on getting her emotional state up. Like making her laugh, before you send an invite.

    It could make all the difference if she offered her number versus you asking for it. Why would she do it if she wasn't interested? Social courtesy.
    I know that she's done her night class at 8 pm on mondays because thats the first time I ran into her. What about being more direct and in control? Say: "Dont make any plans next monday because you're hanging out with me, no i'm not telling you what we're doing :P"

    I can only talk to her through text right now but problem is that she replies once and that's it or not at all.

    Should I just say fuck it and onto the next one?

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    I don't think you should move on. You don't learn anything that way.

    I don't think you should say that either. That's demanding compliance. She hasn't been compliant thus far so it'll be easy for her to reject it. Compliance is a good guideline to see how attracted a woman is to you by what she's willing to do for you. A guideline though, not absolute law. So don't set yourself up by asking her again to meet. Even if it's a demanding way, because you are coming from a position of weakness and not power.

    My personal favorite style for building attraction is push/pull. It's an art in itself and will take time. I like Swingcatts book for the best push/pull techniques. But also focus on Mystery Methods attraction switches such as:

    - Preselection
    - Leader of men
    - social proof
    - Willingness to emote
    - Willingness to walk away

    Flip these on and this should create full blown attraction. Although she's an ex and already knows you so I'd need more details on the dynamics of your relationship.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Can you tell her the full name of the book that you mentioned because I would like to learn push and pull the technique. it seems like that's the issue that I'm having right now. what about texting her? what is a good first text to initiate with that will attract attention right away?

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Batman has been giving you some good advice but why did you breakup with her in the first place? So now you want her back because she is unavailable and that she has moved on with her life, and you are not a priority. One question for you! Have you solved the issue of what led to your previous breakup? If not! Then a future relationship with her will not be sustainable because the same issues will surface again. My advice to you is stop demanding that you two meetup in any way shape or form, and stop with the sarcastic remarks of thanks for helping me with my homework. You're a big boy do it yourself, be independent and show her that you have alpha traits and that your success and happiness is not dependent on her, and in turn it raises your value which in my opinion will lead her back to you.

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    Quote Originally Posted by flyer1 View Post
    Batman has been giving you some good advice but why did you breakup with her in the first place? So now you want her back because she is unavailable and that she has moved on with her life, and you are not a priority. One question for you! Have you solved the issue of what led to your previous breakup? If not! Then a future relationship with her will not be sustainable because the same issues will surface again. My advice to you is stop demanding that you two meetup in any way shape or form, and stop with the sarcastic remarks of thanks for helping me with my homework. You're a big boy do it yourself, be independent and show her that you have alpha traits and that your success and happiness is not dependent on her, and in turn it raises your value which in my opinion will lead her back to you.
    What a great slap in the face....seems like I needed that! As far as break up, I dumped her twice. First time was because I had to move away, second time was because we rushed into a relationship not long ago after she just got out of one. She's been single for a while and we haven't talked until recently so old feelings came back and I thought maybe we could give it another shot.

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    Default Re: Show a bit of a sensitive side?

    I am not saying you can't give it another shot but make sure it's what you both want, and that there will be no incumbances in the way this time in which you can develop a healthy relationship. Good luck to you!


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