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Thread: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

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    Default really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    so, I went to the bar/club tonight(its one of those places where it is a bar, but theres also a dance floor/DJ)

    and ive noticed girls giving me ioi's and I did nothing, absolutely nothing. I couldnt think of anything to say. i want to change, but I feel like im stuck in a rut where im not sure how to change. But at the same time, I know that I have to, because if i dont I will be dissapointed in myself.

    I guess im just not sure where to start. im fine talking to girls if im introduced or know them from somewhere. But approaching a stranger and striking up a conversation is a sticking point for me...

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    Default Re: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    Start with inner game homie. If you don't know what that Is then message me on fb. But yeah. To make it short you need to work on your approach and pretty much self esteem cus trust me any 2 HB" Guy is worth a 10 Hb" Girl

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    Default Re: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    Hey, that's okay...I also have the same problem down here in Germany. THere are lots of beautiful girls I know, but if I want to introduce myself to a girl I don't know... I don't know what to talk about with her What do you usually say to them?

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    Default Re: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    OK I had this sticking point! My advice is to start small.

    start talking to random people during the day. Just force yourself to do it! Then when this becomes natural move it towards talking to women.

    I can talk to a stranger with no hesitation now.

    Oh, and it does not matter what you say! it is all about how you say it. Just be commanding and outwardly confident.

    I can tell you that most girls are happy to have a conversation, everyone likes meeting somebody new. JUST GO FOR IT, THINK LESS AND DO MORE.

    just learn from your mistakes as you go.

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    Default Re: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    I agree, it's about the inner game my friend. Inner game isn't something you are born with, and even when we do work at it, we can lose it in an instant.

    I've been damaged goods by many girls, and my confidence is either off the charts, or down in the dumps. THere are times I stand in a bar and am utterly frustrated by the lack of game I feel I have in me.

    I realize that in instances like that that all I am doing is doubting myself.

    It truly doesn't matter what an opener is or says, it's the way you can pull it off. If you don't have inner game and confidence, even the best openers or conversation tactics won't work.

    Remember, girls don't see the opener or line... They see confidence and inner game.

    Work on your inner game. Don't be afraid of rejection, fails, or being turned down. Those are only one way things didn't work. Now you have something to work with in your next attempt.

    Follow me on twitter @AndyRyfa

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    Default Re: really dissapointed in myself tonight..

    Gmin23, I think a great opening line is "I need a female's opinion on this, my buddy has a girlfriend who is really jealous, his ex-girlfriend wants him to shred her pictures [or stop talking to her or any other bs story you can think of insert here], what do you think?". This is a good one because you can open with a story and the girl won't even see you coming once she's opened her mouth to lay out all types of opinions, life views, etc.

    Another great opener IMHO would be,
    you:"Would you mind sharing your opinion with me on something? I need a female's point of view on this..."
    her: *giggle* "sure!"
    you: "My buddy just got casted for this daytime television show, where they expose that he has a secret lover, but a lot of the time there's a twist [pause] for example a relative will turn out to be the lover, or it even be a gay-lover, would you go on the show if you were casted??"
    her: [insert long and detailed explanation here]

    And it's as simple as that! Once you've began speaking with someone chances are they will be more and more responsive as long as you choose the right words and routines. :]

    Final note, I think you should also work on your inner game as the homies above mentioned, and one excersize I'd like you to execute is this: Go to the nearest mall and say "hi" to every female that passes by, males too, just say hello to everyone you see. Once you do this, I'm not saying you will have completely diminished fear of approaching (sorry forgot the acronym for it). Report back and let me know how it goes! Happy hunting buddy.


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