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Thread: meteora's dinner close.

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    Arrow meteora's dinner close.

    so you want a girl to go to dinner with you eh?
    but what exactly do you say to not get rejected, after all you really want her to go out on a "date" with you.

    but the delima is simple if you ask her "will you go out with me?" she is most likely to turn you down, simply on the basis that you want her to go out with you and she doesn't know why. now i'm not saying you need to explain yourself, but you do need to change how you say it.

    instead of making a question like "will you go to dinner with me?" wich has to be answered with a yes or a no, you need to make a direct statement. you need her to know that you find her interesting, but you aren't taking her out just so you can sleep with her.

    when i ask a girl out i always start by stating what i want to do with her (no pun intended) i tell her things like "i'm going to the theatre with some friends to watch the new ____ movie, i want you to come with me"
    notice how i said it, i stated my intentions and simply told her i wanted her to tag along.

    if she questions why i want her to come with me the answer is always the same, "i just thought you'd be cool to hang out with, but i could be wrong, your not one of those girls who.......(insert some charactoristic about her so it serves as a false disqualifier)"

    by doing this you stay "under the radar" and keep her pursuing you. any time she resists, just switch the convorsation to get her qualifying.

    however i'm not saying you should just keep asking her out until she says yes, if a girl says no, no means no. cut her loose if she won't go out with you (she's waisting your precious time)

    with flakes i give them 2 strikes, if a girl flakes more than twice she isn't attracted enough for you to get anywhere with her anyways.

    so to sum it all up, when asking a girl out make your intentions clear, and tell her what you want to do and that you want her to come with you and do just that. always stick with your plan once you've made it and if she resists get her qualifying again.
    good luck asking girls out

    METEORA

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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    This is good, and I use this sort of date close often but I have another tip. If you felt she was resisting before hand you can easily add in a neg/tease at the end. Such as "I'm going into town today to do some clothes shopping with some mates, you can tag along as long as you promise not to embarrass me". You need to calibrate it depending on how high valued you came across in the interaction and how receptive she is of you. If it's a girl who's highly attracted to you than it could scare her off but I use it a lot to keep them on their toes.
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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    thats an interesting strategie, but if you say that she could "embarass you" it might seem to her that you are embarrassed to be seen in public with her but you could definatly get away with a good neg in there, like "you can come with me as long as you don't try to steal my car" (if i've jokingly called her a criminal ) i personaly prefer teases over negs, but thats just my style

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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    I tend to be a lot more comical when I ask girls out. My personal favorite is making it seem like a formal letter:

    Dear ____,
    You are cordially invited to ___ at _:__ on ____. Friends will be made and dinner will be served.

    Sincerely,
    ___

    PS - (inside joke)

    You obviously get rid of the friends part if it's just you two. I've actually said this to a girl that I thought I had oneitis with (clearly not the case anymore haha) and it worked like a charm.

    I've said it to a couple of other girls, but haven't gotten any declines. My approach would probably be to keep the frame up and stay with that tone:

    Dear ___,

    Your invitation has been officially rescinded. Goodbye!

    It sounds pretty dumb, but maybe I'll get a chance to say it and see how it works out?

    I'll definitely try the one you mentioned this week, though!
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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    i prefer to be more assertive with my invitations. i simply state my intention that i want them to join me for a date. if they don't want to come its fine, i will gladly find someone else

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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    hey meteora, good advice. I struggle asking girls out.

    now, when the girl comes out with you; how do you escalate from there?

    If you say, " lets go to movies" then try to kiss her- won't this confuse them?

    but if you don't escalate at all-you will get friend zoned.

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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    hey meteora, good advice. I struggle asking girls out.

    now, when the girl comes out with you; how do you escalate from there?

    If you say, " lets go to movies" then try to kiss her- won't this confuse them?

    but if you don't escalate at all-you will get friend zoned.
    the original post is about getting girls to actually meet you. getting them to kiss you is a little different topic.

    kissing is all about proper timing. once you've done it so many times you just get a feel for how to make it work.

    kissing breaks down to proximity, body language and attraction. if the attraction is there, 9 times out of ten you can "invade her space" and make it happen.

    the main thing guys get wrong is that they don't give the girl a reason why they are interested in them before they try to kiss. (this doesn't mean you need to profess your love to her) but you do have to be interested in who she is and tell her what you like about who she is. (the important thing is to never compliment her on physical characteristic's until you're in the bedroom)

    you have to show genuine intereset, otherwise she'll sniff out the fact that you just want sex.

    once you feel mutual interest towards each other, you move in closer and talk softer. bridging the distance and giving her that "I want you" facial expression.


    example:


    Hannah.

    I had met her through a mutual friend. one weekend we stayed at her parents place and drank with her cousin. we had some good conversation and she was just giving me that look. (its hard to explain it) so when she got up from the table and brushed her arm across my shoulder as she walked by where I was seated I knew it was on. so when she came back I told her "lets go shoot pool in the basement" she agreed. the cousin saw what was up and he decided to turn in for the night. after playing a game or two of pool, I hit my hand off of something by accident and cut one of my fingers pretty badly. she was genuinely concerned about my injury, so we went upstairs to get a Band-Aid. in her bathroom, she held my hand up and wrapped the Band-Aid around my finger. as soon as it was on my finger, she looked up at me and it felt like she had just slipped a ring on my finger. I knew what those bedroom eyes meant. combine that with the fact that her taking care of me like that made me feel even more attracted to her. so I pulled her in and made out with her. many bite and scratch marks later, we woke up next to each other and made more bite marks before I left.

    timing was everything. I knew when to show interest, and when to escalate. in most cases women will let you know when they're into you. and you'll see when they want to be kissed. the more times you do it, the better you'll get at it.

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    Default Re: meteora's dinner close.

    wow great story, thanks. Good feedback


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