Back in August, I met this girl in grad school. I found her fairly attractive but she looked like a really good study partner. So we basically ended up studying all the time together. The more I hung out with her, the more I started to become interested. I figured that I would like to ask her on a date (this was about 6 weeks ago). We go out for dinner and had a great time. I told her that I felt like watching a movie, so she invited me back to her place and we rented a movie on the computer. Towards the middle of the movie (and this movie was absolutely awful to the point we were just laughing at how badly it was made) I put my arm around her and she kinda just fell into my arms.
I turn to kiss her and we kiss for a brief few seconds. She said, "No, we can't do this.. I knew this was going to end up happening" I asked her why and she said because she did not want to do anything with another guy for a while. She apparently hooked up with this other guy from our school and he hooked up with a couple of girls right after her. Problem is, our school is very small and things tend to spread very quickly. She said she made a really bad mistake and wished that she did it with me instead. We cuddled for like 3 hours after that and she kept on complimenting me on how good of a cuddler I was. She also said that she likes me and feels really bad but for herself she doesn't want to do anything with a guy for a while.
The next night, she asks me to come over and study. We end up watching another movie afterwards but this time it is in her bed. We then start making out and she's like "No we can't".. but then we just keep on continuing and she asks me to stay the night. We basically just did fore play and she layed naked in bed with me until morning. She said that she was super horny, etc. and I tried having sex but she was tough and said "no I can't, remember what I said last night?" Then I was like fine whatever and turned to the other side and closed my eyes. Shes like your not going to sleep are you? really? She went in to start kissing again and I just kind of turned her down and was like No, I am going to bed. I guess it was my persistance that got me even this far. In the morning we started making out again but when it started to escalate she then, not kicked me out, but told me she had stuff to do and she didn't want any of her neighbors knowing that I was here all night so opened the door and made sure the coast was clear for me to leave without being noticed by anyone. She was also kind of freaking out telling me not to tell anyone about what happened.
4 weeks later we go to this bar that alot of the grad students go to but we went separately. She wanted to go together but I told her I was going with some of my guy friends and was planning on leaving earlier than when she wanted to leave. So we met up there and got a little jealous that I was talking to an old friend from my home state that I happened to see. She then left and I was texting her to try and find her. She said she left to another bar... I got kind of mad and ignored her. She kept calling like 4 times. I finally picked up and told her that I went back home but was mad she left without telling me... and then she felt bad and took a cab back home (she lives very close to me). She forgot her keys and ended up at my place. She went to use my bathroom and used my Listerine. She layed on my bed so I went in to kiss her and she backed away. I then went in again and she backed away. She said listen you are too agressive and what happened before cant happen again, Im really sorry. I was very sad when she said that to me because I didn't even feel that agressive at all and then i walked her back. She then told me how she got out of a really long relationship as well.
Yesterday, a few weeks after that. We started talking about past relationships in the car. I finally just told her hey listen I guess that thing that happened between us a couple months ago shouldnt have happened. She seemed really sad and she said no I think it should have happened. Then I asked her if she was interested in me and she said no very hesitantly. It almost seemed like she didn't know what to say or she didn't want to say it. I DONT GET THIS GIRL. I then asked her so it would be okay if I started dating another girl? She said yes, if you like someone else you should move on. That night, she texted me saying that it wasn't "easy" for her to say that to me. She can't study without me she is always calling me and texting me. She say's she finds me attractive but she is not interested?? What is going on? I really like her and I don't know how to get her. Is it over? If someone please give me some suggestions on what my next step would be that would be great. Thank you.