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    Default I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    hey guys. Im a an average attractive looking male so I notice girls looking at me. ( not being cocky here). I want to look at them and smile but I just cant hold eye contact. When I start to hold eye contact with a person it feels weird to me and I tend to look away immediately. I just dont feel comfortable with it, and it SUCKS.
    Before with my girlfriend, I dont feel anything weird maintaining eye contact with her. Or even when I'm in a date. I just feel that weirdness with someone I dont know yet or when I'm in public.
    Need your help please.

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    All I can say is it will feel awkward at first. You just have to push through it man. Whats the worst that could happen? She will look away. I always used to be the one to look away first but there is a technique I use that stops me from looking away. When you make eye contact with a lady count to 3 in your head, then just smile. I have noticed with a lot of girls lately that they look away first because they are not used to guys holding eye contact.

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    haha Supremo that's exactly right, although some of them try and go into a staring contest with u in which i just grin :P

    when i was getting used to it all they always used to catch me mid-breath, so i just held it and then let the air out through my nose and smiled haha random much? you bet

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    Supremo took the words right out of my mouth.

    So you look at a girl and she knows you're looking, what's the worst that can happen? If anything she'll like the attention. Don't stare though, relax, be chill.

    I used to be in your exact position. I was shy but I kept working on it. Slowly but surely, I was able to maintain eye contact for longer each time and even smile eventually. Everyone goes through this, you're not the only one.
    "To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." - Oscar Wilde

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    I usually think I'm an actor in a movie. I've dramatically improved my game by handling situations as if there were cameras all around me and I had to act like a movie star.

    Type in Body Language Attraction - Casino Royale - Train Scene on Youtube.

    This strong eye contact may seem awkward at first, but if you try it you will see that it creates attraction.

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    Quote Originally Posted by DwightKim View Post
    hey guys. Im a an average attractive looking male so I notice girls looking at me. ( not being cocky here). I want to look at them and smile but I just cant hold eye contact. When I start to hold eye contact with a person it feels weird to me and I tend to look away immediately. I just dont feel comfortable with it, and it SUCKS.
    Before with my girlfriend, I dont feel anything weird maintaining eye contact with her. Or even when I'm in a date. I just feel that weirdness with someone I dont know yet or when I'm in public.
    Need your help please.
    that's normal anyway, but of course, in my opinion eye contact with the girl who look at you will (some how) make a wrong thinking as it happent to me

    if you have GF, it's best if you make a fast eye contact and smile with the "orther" ones, just in a socialy way :P, that's not kill anybody

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    if u cannot do her eyes - then ur alternative is

    1) looking at her cheeks/nose/chin and smile
    2) imagining she's a turnip/ape/fish stick - and smile

    but all u need to do is look momentarily and squeeze out ur warm smile.

    when i do it, i imagine she's someone i would like to love -- look at her whole face and warm smile.

    GL

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    I've had this problem too. The naturals are really good with just eye balling girls, smiling, and then shes theirs.

    I try to smile and then look away. Staring at them too long will creep them out. Look away as if your not interested/cocky though. Maybe smirk or nod your head, otherwise she'll think your just being weak.

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    when i'm rolling, i would lock eyes (unphased), cock my head and smile, and approach.

    don't freak urself out if ur not use to her eyes... like i said... look at something else on her face. after u build some rapport, u should be able to look at her.

    try this:
    look at the left eye only
    when ur comfy - look at both.

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    Default Re: I can't hold eye contact with a girl

    A trick i heard is to look at yourself in the mirror. Keep eye contact with yourself... do it while you try some routines. Notice what your saying and how u look while u do it. It may take time to work out the kinks, but it will happen. Its an old public speaking trick that helps improve audience contact
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