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    spooler81 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Need new persona?

    I'm from Australia, in my early twenties and I've had a couple of pretty bad years life-wise.
    This year I've made a really conscious effort to improve my life. I've managed to ditch my tendency towards self-destructiveness, my university grades have skyrocketed and thanks to a conscious effort to rework my sense of style, I now regularly draw compliments about how I dress (which is new to me). Strangely enough though, it hasn't extended to success with women. All together I've been with six girls, which doesn't sound too bad objectively, but I haven't had sex in eighteen months. I go out a lot (probably three nights a week), drink a lot, and I have a lot of friends including many female friends. I guess the persona I try to work with girls is a sort of cocky smart hipster thing - I'm pretty well-informed about most things so I can talk about almost anything, I know quite a bit about cool bands/films/writers and I try to pretend that I have a healthy sense of self because of this. The truth is though, the fact that it's been so long since anything serious happened with a girl means that I can't help but perceive myself as a failure. Worse still, failing with women means that I struggle to appreciate succeeding at anything else. I'm a big fan of David DeAngelo and his cocky/funny method, but perhaps it seems a little insincere when I try it. It feels a little shit knowing that I actually got more girls when I was a messed up, self-destructive deadbeat.
    I know there's no magic bullet with these things, but is there some new persona I need to adopt that would help me finally break this long dry spell? If anyone could recommend some literature, techniques, anything, that would be awesome.

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    YOKiTran is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Need new persona?

    u don't need a new persona... look at what happened when u tried to adopt David's persona/method.

    it's good to learn abt someone's routines and thoughts, but never lose who u r... what ur morals r or what ur comfy with.

    ask urself what is success to u.?? if sex fulfills ur desires when u picked up PUA, then u will need to learn how that aspect.

    i'm guessing sex is not ur prize tho - or u could have it already.

    for me... i mindlessly go on dates, feeling unfulfilled mostly just to go and learn... i went a long time without sex and felt like u did. -- but then one day that special girl came along and i connected with her so well.

    and u know, because i knew my stuff - i was able to bag the alpha of alphas... like Neil Strauss, i made it my goal to learn PUA to find the one girl.

    sadly me n her r not together anymore.... but i felt that getting an alpha of her level to go crazy over me solidified the meaning to why i'm doing what i do.

    just be patient, buddy... don't put too much emphasis on someone else's idea of success. u r doing fine...

    do a field report if u need critiques.^^

    Cheers


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