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    jtl-38 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Total newb in need of emergency help!

    I am getting divorced after 17 years. I have NO game. Anyways in my state we have to take family classes with our kids (they are on different rooms). At my last class the only HB in the class started talking to me. We talked the little time we had to do so. Tonight is our last class and I want to get her number. Anyone help a poor newb out?

    I just joined the site yesterday and have about 4 hours reading in so far. I'm like a dry sponge soaking it all in.

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    Charlie Neptune is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Total newb in need of emergency help!

    Since she's in a similar situation you have a lot of commonalities and she's probably as eager to get social as you are. Just continue the conversation and invite her along for a drink after class or meet up soon if she can't then. Be friendly and take the lead.

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    Default Re: Total newb in need of emergency help!

    I say, avoid the drink suggestion because she might feel uncomfortable given what she is going through etc.

    You will know through body language and her general demeanor what the limits are. If you think asking her for a drink is too direct.

    Try: "listen it would be really good to stay in touch, perhaps we could "re-intergrate" into society together" (then suggest drink) OR if you ever need to just get your mind off all the burdens in life and just do something different..."

    don't come on too strong, she is probably emotionally hurt, so be sensitive to her needs, and sincere in your interest in her well being.

    try it... good luck!!

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    jtl-38 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Total newb in need of emergency help!

    I was leaning to the not to direct approach because I don't know her situation. I thought of trying to get her number then text/talk. Is that to beta? I just know I got the one shot tonight and I'm going to either go down in flames or succeed.

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    jtl-38 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Total newb in need of emergency help!

    Well I didn't go down in flames. I just bombed it bad. Start of meeting kids are with us so a no go. I ended up sitting beside her but could tell she was agitated so no go. Went on a smoke brake she's bothered about kid stuff and talked to me and another girl about it no go. It seemed like I cheered her up cause she was a lot more relaxed after smoke break. So I used a method I read about today (I don't remember who posted it but thanks). I wrote a little note on some paper she let me borrow "I would like to call you since our classes a finished _ _ _ _ _ _ _ ". Then I slid it over to her she asked "you don't want it?" Real loud and we were at a large table with 5 other women sitting there. I froze for a second then all I could say was " no". Everybody was looking so I didn't want to point it out. She folded it and put it in a folder she had. I was like aww hell no in my head. So the end of class kids are in there so no go.

    So I bombed bad on my first trip out in 20 years total. No worries though I'm just getting started!

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    Default Re: Total newb in need of emergency help!

    1) communicate the way u normally do -
    2) raise ur energy...
    3) when the energy is high, "let her know that u would like to continue this great vibe with her - ~~~ example: say, let's chill over coffee/food/lounge/whatever"
    ~~~ don's ask... state.^^

    cheers.


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