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    Default How to reply to a validation request

    So I started gaming this girl at work, she is known to lead guy's on, let them take her out and buy her dinner a few times, then ditch them and what not. Basically she is a validation whore.

    So we were flirting and what not, the past couple days I had been getting NV IOIs from her (maintaining eye contact, proximity, smiles every time she looked at me, etc). I refrained from taking her number because of course, for the reasons stated above.

    The other day she walked up to me and asked if I like her hair (she actually did it two or three times throughout the night). I did like her highlights, but I would have rather them been a bit lighter so they stood out more. I told her this, then went back to working. I would like a better way to respond to such statements as for some reason.

    Now I don't know if my response made a difference, but she is a bit different to me now. She kept walking by and smiling, holding eye contact, etc harder than before, and I laughed about it once I noticed.

    Me: You keep smiling when you look at me, look at you its so cute!
    Her: Yea right, mabye if you were (insert some famous bullrider here)
    Me: Who? An author?
    Her: No, he is a famous bullrider
    Me: Oh sorry, you know I don't watch much TV, I kinda have a life :P
    Her: Well....(I cut her off)
    Me: How are you going to compare me to some famous guy, how many famous people have YOU dated?
    Her: Well...(Cut her off again, as it kind of irritated me)
    Me: Nope, don't talk to me, you must be one of them crazies (I walked away and went back to working, she did the same, but with a shocked kind of laughing. The last comment seems kind of rude, but once you get to know me, you would see it fits my personality and I can make things like that work)

    Basically, the whole dynamic between us flipped around with that one comment, and I don't particularly want this girl, but I'm curious as to some opinions on why this may have happened.
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    Default Re: How to reply to a validation request

    Too much cocky not enough funny. You seem arrogant as fuck, no offense. I would've played with the whole smile thing.

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    Default Re: How to reply to a validation request

    I was about to say something about handling it perfectly.

    So you've disqualified the girl - she's bad news, you're not interested.
    You give her a massive IOD by being rude to her - so she leaves you alone.
    Then you wonder why she's not interested any more?

    If she's not worth the agro (disqualified, as you said at the start), why would you game her? Just shut her down and send her on her way if you're not interested. You shouldn't have time for cheap tat that you're not interested in.

    If you were interested, she was giving you these massive ioi's, and you basically shut her down. I'm not surprised she's stopped with the IOI's!

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    Default Re: How to reply to a validation request

    Well more or less, I just wanted kind of a breakdown. I don't have anyone in real life capable of analyzing these things, and you are right, I was kind of a dick to her, she treats people like shit and that is a quality I'm not really that interested in. Most of my posts are just for a breakdown of the interaction in general, because if I'm posting the interaction here and something serious were to happen it could bite me in the ass later.
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    Default Re: How to reply to a validation request

    I 100% disagree with KonMan. You kept complete control of the frame and brushed her off with an "I'm better than you" attitude, which from what it seems is what she needs. Next time you see her, I'd be friendly to her until she warms up to you then neg again. You were a little harsh with yours though, maybe tone it back just a little bit Even if you're not interested now, who knows what might happen!
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    Default Re: How to reply to a validation request

    Well an update on this, I've been getting some mad IOIs from her, I havn't been saying much, simply exterting body language of sexual interest. I have a rule at work, I only date 1 co-worker at a time, and my slot is filled atm. Thank you though, I agree I was a bit harsh but this girl is super stuck up and prissy. She backed off and it was easy to get her tagging along again. She still smiles almost every time she sees me

    Oh yea btw, she keeps telling me she will never date a bull rider now hehe.
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