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    Default Mixed Signals from Old Crush

    Hey guys, new guy here! So I read I had to post a new thread in less than 24 hours so this is perfect for the occasion:

    I had this crush on high school (I'm on college now, 21 years old) that was a year younger than me. We kind of talked, she is this really sweet, beautiful girl, she loves to read (i was thinking of getting her I, Robot for Christmas). The thing is this:

    After a long time we stopped talking, she sent me an inbox through fb joking about "who the hell do I think I am, not talking to her anymore" so I took it as a slightly good sign. We revamped the conversational relationship, and then for some reason I told her she was very sweet. To which then, she tweeted "And he just called me seet, I blushed." So you know, it was like an obvious sign! But I asked her out like 3 times on the following week, and she gave an excuse to each one, to the last one she told me "thanks a lot really, but I won't be able to (she apparently had choir practice for Christmas) but how about coffee? Short story: I didn't mention the coffe because I did not want to seem needy, but she didn't either, even though she talked to me that day. So... lost cause?

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    Why didn't you take her up on coffee? Perfect date to just sit and feel it out. Give it a few days then try and reschedule, do something light and casual.

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    Well that's the thing, I would've loved to, but she didn't brought it up the day she said we should go out :/

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    Just ask her again if you want to do it, stop worrying. If she doesn't respond or do anything, then forget about her and move on.

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    You don't ask her if she'd like to go out. You tell her. You need to lead her, and you need to take control. It's very obvious that she likes you, so act on it. You are the man and she is the woman, don't give her the choice to decide. In addition, there is a difference between being persistent and coming off as needy. Learn it and your gaming horizons will sky-rocket. She's just playing hard to get, don't jump through her hoops, take control. Welcome to the site by the way, and enjoy your stay!
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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    'kay, being a bookworm herself, I'll ask her out to The Hobbit. Any advice on that, really appreciated. Update pending.

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    STOP! no movies man, how the hell are you suppose to get to know her over a movie? COFFEE date first, work some magic and build comfort with her. Can't do that at a movie

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    Quote Originally Posted by josefavelam View Post
    'kay, being a bookworm herself, I'll ask her out to The Hobbit. Any advice on that, really appreciated. Update pending.
    No.

    You'll tell her that you're taking her to see The Hobbbit, and don't make it sound like a date because that puts a lot of pressure on the girl.

    "Hey _______, I saw the trailer for The Hobbit and it looks great. We're going to go see it, there's a 7:35pm showing, I'll be there at 7:13, be ready.

    If that's the route you want to go, that's how you lead and tell her. I usually spend 0 dollars on a girl when I first meet up with her, as my mere presence is more than enough for her. As the guy above me said, go for coffee or something instead, the whole movie thing is boring and there's no time to interact when you're watching a movie, and unless you're proficient in Kino-escalating and have some killer non-verbal game, I wouldn't go to a movie the first time I go out with a girl; Not to mention how cliche it is.

    "Let's go grab some coffee at such and such, and we'll take it from there,I know a great little place that has a phenomenal brew. I'll be there at 8:29, see you then."

    Make sure you have a gameplan for after the coffee such as going on a walk or something, just an example
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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    Quote Originally Posted by Shortman View Post
    STOP! no movies man, how the hell are you suppose to get to know her over a movie? COFFEE date first, work some magic and build comfort with her. Can't do that at a movie
    well, seems I'll need to expand a bit
    In highschool, she was a sophomore I think you call it, when I was a senior, and at the time I already had a crush on her, so we got to know each other, we are not strangers, but I wouldn't say we are hangout friends. We do talk a lot, and she has explicitly said that she likes talking with me, that for some unkonwn reason she trusts me.

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    Default Re: Mixed Signals

    So take her out to do something fun, dancing, ice skating, something where you can get her to have a good time. Not a movie though


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