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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    Dear Hyp, thanks again for your help. Concerning your thoughts:
    no problems, i'm waiting 20mins for some sh1t to copy so i can get my 6hrs sleep before work haha

    She told me also that at home her father was always criticizing her (that's why she was surprised when her flatmate started to like when she was not doing things well (poor water on the floor etc)

    upon the next meet try and build comfort, then tell her to do something that you feel would let her be herself, not under pressure, i can't really think of anything apart from the tipping water on the floor, just something to let her know it's okay to screw up once in a while haha

    She told me that she loves people that have passion.
    most women do :P


    : “What has to deal with it my seniority at work...?
    oh yeah i just realised, this wasn't required at all, can't change it now but she was talking more so about how she wants things to be perfect

    I wonder if she is week. What wrong move? What are you thinking about?
    And if she is not going to put me into the “friend mode”. How to avoid it...

    she sounds it, she needs someone to be in control (such as yourself thats why shes responding so positive on the dates to you, but again requires alot of comfort building - use the search button there'll be stuff based on it)
    "friends don't put each other in boxes" say that if she tells you
    red baron, the elitist have some avoiding friend zone guides

    I am not sure, maybe the only way to go now is to stop talking and texting to her for a week... Hard to say if it is real interest and if she would miss me...
    yeah give it 4 days and then if she doesn't talk to you within that, just send her a brief text or call to meet up somewhere relaxed, park? mall / shopping centre? river? at this stage i would suggest showing her how cool u are with your mates

    good luck from here

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    Thanks again.
    What does it mean she needs someone to be in control? That she does need to control me?

    By the way I remember, once she told me she likes the shape of my skull

    I hope there is a real interest in me, maybe I did it to fast but you know on the second meeting she arrived to my home and something happened there, not a full sex (I didn't want to force her but I saw how she was excited when I was touching her body) Then she said that she must go. And afterna while that it is not good that she allowed me to do this. It was maybe not very wise of me, I should have slowly let her think more and more about me as about someone she would dream about. Anyway I hope not everything is lost although she knows much about me, she knows how my studio looks like, my house, my car- much more that I know about her. Which is maybe not good, But anyway hard to
    Today (but I promised, this is the last) I wrote her that I am going for Sushi and if she likes she could join. She didn't reply but I know she has some work to do for a term in several days...

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    Quote Originally Posted by unsurprisingly View Post
    I wrote her that I am going for Sushi and if she likes she could join. She didn't reply but I know she has some work to do for a term in several days...
    Perfect. Now let her make next contact. I repeat. Do not make contact with her.

    If you extend and she does not acknowledge, you do not extend again. You reward good behavior, not negative behavior.

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    What did you mean by
    she needs someone to be in control? That she does need to control me?

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    And what do you think, maybe it was too bad that I took her home too quickly. She was very curious to see my recording studio and I gave here this in one day. But she was so nice to me when we were looking things in IKEA and eating there....

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    for the part on when u were touching her and she said it wasn't good for her she put up Last Minute Resistance - I'm not that great on the area but there are alot of guides on it, one that was written by Cody, combine that with Linking x's kiss guide that wouldn't have been an issue

    by being in control I mean you taking charge and leading most of the interactions, whether you've been doin this or not I feel you have but yeah that's what she needs

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    I was reading about this anti-resistance thing - yes but you know, I would like to be with this girl for longer time - so it wouldn't be OK to try more probably, and I was not pressing, I wanted to show her that i feel respect to her, but maybe it was a mistake...

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    I am still waiting, nothing happens - hope that it couldn't be a thing that she simply wanted to meet someone interesting whoever it is and that she didn't loose her interest in me after she saw my studio, how I work etc. Or that she didn't start to be with her flatmate. if in 5 days she doesn't contact me, what to do? Maybe to write her a text like "great that you are so independent person". No idea doesn't sound good to me...

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    I am not sure, maybe the only way to go now is to stop talking and texting to her for a week... Hard to say if it is real interest and if she would miss me...
    yeah give it 4 days and then if she doesn't talk to you within that, just send her a brief text or call to meet up somewhere relaxed, park? mall / shopping centre? river? at this stage i would suggest showing her how cool u are with your mates

    if in 5 days she doesn't contact me, what to do? Maybe to write her a text like "great that you are so independent person". No idea doesn't sound good to me...
    no that might scare her off for good, it's like saying your doing fine without me, i like that.

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    Default Re: Very great start and story - how to not destroy it?

    I have no problems giving 4 days, the thing is I wonder how it really is - maybe she was really feeling very bad that I told her half joking that anyway I would kiss her if I want and that I can be a prize for her. That's why after that I wrote her another message - something more about me, not so alfa, because I just wanted to show her anyway that for me IS important what she thinks.
    Or maybe she is just working, it is Friday - we will see. I hope this what she said (in her last message and that she didn't reply at all for my invitation to Sushi) is not that she just decided she needs a distance to me and I will be friend because she is not able to control anything. (I took her to the nice cafe last time, I decided to go somewhere - I didn't want to sit in the car like an ashole - she expected only to go down from her flat to my car to talk). And everything was good until this what I told her. Then, (you remember her text messages from her
    I hope anyway it is better than me being too submisive...
    So what to do now...


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