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Thread: Help on LJBF Response

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    Default Help on LJBF Response

    Hey guys,

    I'm young and a bit of a newbie at this stuff so thought would ask the experts around here:

    Just met a girl through a mutual friend, asked her out to grab a drink, she said yes but as 'friends' because 'i don't see you in that way'. I jokingly said yes, but obviously I'm not interested in being friends, what's my best response in this situation?

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    Default Re: Help on LJBF Response

    I would have most likely rejected that frame. I don't want to waste my time. Not trying to be a @$$hole to the woman, I just have enough friends and would mainly be interested in intimacy and sex. I would have said "Yeah, let's skip that idea then. I have no intention of having you as just a friend. In that case we can stay acquaintances."

    A lot of people will try to play different lines at this stage but, I'm going to give you the brass tacks of it... Unless she gave you this just friends response after literally 10 seconds or at most 2 mins, you're better just burning it fast and moving on. Burning it: meaning cutting to the chase asap to elevate time (you really don't want to waste weeks or even a date on a just friend scenario you aren't interested in bring just friends with). That response she gave you was an indicator that you messed up before she gave you the response more so than a test/gate that she wants you to work past. It means she's for the most part made up her mind about her attraction and sexual interest, in regards to you based off your previous behavior, vibe, external factors, physicality and much more.

    Realize that even to master seduction artists attraction will always be a numbers game. NOBODY has 100% success 100% of the time. You're going to get women that will flake out, that will reject you, etc. What we're striving for is to improve that numbers games dramatically. The one thing you really won't be able to get back is time. It's a small chance that anyone will convert "let's just be friend" situations over to anything much more than a regretful fooling around, where she texts you back the next day saying she doesn't want that to happen again. Cut to the chase with her to weed it out as worth while or not and instead go out and meet more women.

    As I've said in previous forum posts: One of the best ways you can figure out if you are headed towards the friend zone is to ask the following question: "If I were to be having this interaction with a guy would it be weird?" If your answer is anything less of a "HELL YEAH it would be weird!" then your most likely relating to the woman on a friend level in which she'll treat you like one. You want to have a strong polarity throughout your entire interaction.

    ~ Dom

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    Default Re: Help on LJBF Response

    This is good advice, thanks for writing that up!

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    Default Re: Help on LJBF Response

    Happy to help brother. Feel free to message me if you want any more specific tips.

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    Default Re: Help on LJBF Response

    I think it just means you asked her out too early. You have to understand that women get hit on A LOT. Get asked out on dates A LOT. And most of these guys are CREEPS. Now this doesn't mean you don't have a shot. It just means she is just trying to protect herself in case you're creepy lol. My advice...pretend she didn't say anything like that and keep pushing and show her what kind of guy you are. Good luck. Hope this helps.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Help on LJBF Response

    This happened to me earlier this fall with this chick I met in a latin bar. I answered "yeah, sure "friends" lol"

    Got her out on a date to a sushi place next to my place, brought her back home for a few drinks, closed

    My current girlfriend also told me something similar when I picked her up while she was working. Told me she was kinda seeing someone when she gave me her number. Told me the same when I asked her out. I was like "yeah yeah I heard. Kinda seeing someone. Jazz Bar at 8:30". We met, had dinner, she drove me back to my place, K-closed her in her car and escalated from there and got some LMR. Finished the close two days later and we've been dating since.

    I agree with Batman here, don't really take what people say to face value.


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