**DISCLAIMER** This is a somewhat long story and I added a lot of detail.. so I apologize for those who don't have the time to read it. But I wanted to get this off my chest and tell the community. Thank you everyone for your support.
So I'm sure that the majority of you don't know me, I'm pretty new to the game and don't have much in field experience. I recently had a big move from Vegas to Florida and I'm starting up college on the 7th, but no excuses. So I've done my homework, but I am still a noob. I don't have that many approaches under my belt, mostly just 1 sets. But anyway I decided I would come on here and give you guys a little story of what happened to me today. I understand that a lot of the things I said to these girls was completely AFC, so don't bash me or anything... I was completely HAPPY that I approached this 3 set even though it didn't go exactly as I wish it would have.
Today I was at the bowling ally with my family and some cousins who flew in from Austria who are much younger than me. When we walked in I spot this 3 set who look pretty dang young to me (I was guessing, ok hoping, that the HB9 was at least 18) and didn't really care for the obstacles. So we were all at the counter getting our shoes and I glanced at my target and saw she was looking at me, so like I had learned I maintained eye contact to let her know that I was interested. This kept happening throughout the time I was there.
We ended up being in lane 29 and they were in lane 31, but I my biggest thing was I didn't really want to approach them with my family standing right there. I know I know!!! I felt like I was just making excuses for myself, but at least I ended up approaching later. So throughout our 2 games every now and then I'd catch my target looking at me, so I'd look back and after 3 seconds I'd give her a smile. So this kept going on for a while and it was enjoyable, even the other girls were looking at me from time to time. And my 15 year old cousin was like "they are totally checking you out..." and I was like "LOL ya I know dude." He's a riot...
(I want to apologize for this long story, but I really wanted to let you guys know of my progress, so I decided to tell you guys)
So once our game was just about to finish I noticed they were leaving... I thought to myself, OMG... I won't be able to approach. I bowled my last set and I walked off to the bathroom and as I was walking I noticed they were walking about 20 feet behind me. Now with all the eye ques the girl was giving me, I guessed that there was a little IOI which gave me more confidence to approach. I was so nervous... although I shouldn't have been. I walked into the bathroom, washed my hands (because bowling balls are gross as hell) and took 2 deep breaths... when I hear the voice of girls outside the bathroom. My heart started pounding SO hard. I thought to myself, "alright, I don't really know what I'm going to say but I'm going to start off with saying Hey." This was a bad idea. But I was so nervous I hurried up and walked out of the bathroom to see HB9 and HB7 sitting around the arcade talking...
Now before I tell you this I want you to know I went over the scenario in my head multiple times and **IVE LEARNED FROM MY MISTAKES** so please don't bash.
I walk up and make eye contact with the HB9 who is staring RIGHT back at me, the HB7 was more shy kind of looking down (she was younger). I walked up and said Hey. They responded saying hello back. After that... I froze.. I DIDN'T KNOW WTF TO SAY LOL. I started looking around and then I realized. "Wow, I'm opening right now, and this is like my first set." But I quickly had to think of something so it wasn't just quiet. All night I was thinking to myself how old they were, so I was like fark it. And I asked how old they were (bad mistake). HB9 was 20, I thought she was much younger... and I'm 21 so it's cool!
In a perfect scenario I should have opened SOMETHING like this. *Look at HB7* "Hey, you're pretty good at bowling... but her? not so good." *smile*
So we keep chatting a little bit, and in all honesty almost EVERYTHING I learned went straight through the window. I focused too much on how freaking hot this girl was... which was another MISTAKE. But like I said I've learned. So I find out that they aren't actually from Florida, they are just visiting from N.C. I calm down a little and say that I recently moved and am starting up school soon. Right after I said this I thought to myself "damn, I'm not being interesting.. funny.. or anything of that matter" but I kept on trucking. I tried looking back and forth between the HB9 and HB7 but the HB7 was shy like I said. If I could have gone back, I would have tried to neg my target a little more.
So I felt like things were going fine until this part (which isn't entirely bad either, I'm happy with my approach and how it went). So I started getting a little bit antsy with what to say, "So uh, listen you should give me your number and if you're ever down in Florida we should hang out." Let me tell you that the HB9 was smiling for most of the time I was talking to her. Then right as I said this the HB5 walked out of the bathroom and said "No, we all have boyfriends sorry." I look at her, then all of them and smile and said "Well, it was nice meeting you all *smile*" and I walked away.
I tried to Number Close a 3 set and didn't get it. I understand the things I should have done to make it better, but it's a learning experience... and this was my first legit 3 set open and BOY... I WAS SO HAPPY I OPENED THEM. Because if I didn't open them, I wouldn't have known they were from out of state and they were just on vacation, and I wouldn't have known they all had boyfriends (even if it wasn't true, I don't care). I am just overall very happy about today. I'm going to keep approaching sets and keep bettering myself.
I know that I should have been more funny and exciting, and I should have really got the HB5 to like me, but honestly she somewhat threw me off and came from my blindside RIGHT AFTER I asked the HB9 for her phone number.
I think that I hit all the points of this story, and I thank all of you who read this massive wall of text. I am going to write down in Word Document some things I could better myself in when talking to sets. I felt pretty confident overall besides the fact of not saying things that were too interesting or fun.
Things I learned:
- Have something to say BEFORE you open the set, even if it's stupid
- Neg the target if shes a HB9+ and looks like she gets hit on a lot, etc.
- Try to be really nice to the obstacles and make them like you, I wouldn't say the HB5 threw up a "Bitch Shield" or anything... because she was simply saving her friend from a threat.
- Stay in the conversation, even if they say they have boyfriends. I ejected too early I think, I should have stayed around and shot the sh!t more... why not? more practice. I will write more detail in my Word document of what to say after the "No, we all have boyfriends" sh!t test/bitch shield... whatever you want to call it
Like I said guys, I'm just happy I opened. I'm so glad I opened the set even though I WAS MORE NERVOUS THAN I SHOULD HAVE BEEN. Guys, if you see a set and you have an opportunity to open (honestly this set was pretty much sitting on my lap waiting for me to walk out of the bathroom... and all the eye contact I was getting all night gave me a better reason to open)... DO IT. Open. Who cares? What's the worst that can happen? Shot down? OH WELL. Never see them again in my life. They seemed like interesting girls... so I opened. And like I said I'm glad I did.
Thanks again, for the support, the learning, and becoming a better person!
Have a great day and happy New Year!