I'm new to the game. I read "The Game" by Neil "Style" Strauss during the summer but I didn't get interested in the game until about two weeks ago.
It wasn't until few days ago that I decided to take control over ... my life. I work as a server in a restaurant in downtown Toronto and the most perfect 10 shows up and I get to serve her table. I know she liked me because I heard her telling her friend she thinks I'm cute and funny. I was too afraid to make a move though. I know it's not because I was working. In fact, if I had met her at a different time, different place, I probably wouldn't have approached her either.
That's when I realised that the problem is entirely in me. Even though I knew she felt attraction towards me, I wouldn't make a move.
I've been going to malls during the day for the past few days, walking around, looking at the beautiful girls (that are usually in sets of 2+), trying to get the courage to overcome my aa, but never actually getting the balls to do anything. Perhaps it's because I don't really know what to say when I approach them. "Hey, I saw you from over there and I thought I should come to tell you that I think you're really cute and I'd like to get to know you better. Hi, my name's X". This is the opener I came up with but never actually ever used because never overcame my AA.
I'm not handsome, but I'm not ugly either. According to my friends I'm 7.5~8, I'm 6"1(182cm), 155lb (70kg), lean, I work out almost every day, I'm in good shape. And yet I always feel like I will either get rejected or get laughed at, with not even a chance for positive answer. I guess partly it's because I'm 19 and I've only made out with one girl once (this summer), never had a girlfriend, never had sex and all the girl friends I've had, I friendzone by mistake. So far, I've been rejected/friendzoned by almost every girl I've tried to become more than friends with. What I'm trying to say is that I think my AA is so high because of not only the lack of experience I've had with girls, but also because of the negative experience I've had.
I just turned 19 on December 25th (which is the legal drinking age in Toronto, Canada) and I can finally go clubbing and to bars (legally ).
I guess my question is, since I've decided to take control of my life, where do I begin? I need a starting point because right now it feels like I am trying to do everything at the same time and it feels like too much to handle.
Should I memorize some openers first? Would that make my AA decrease a little? Should I stick to day game in malls or should I start with night game in bars and clubs and when I am able to do that, then move to day game? Should I work on my Inner game or Outer game or both at the same time? Any good books on body language, building rapport, leading a conversation?
I apologize for the long post but to be honest, I actually feel a bit better after sharing this with the community.
Thanks in advance for any replies. I like reading so feel free to recommend books or websites with good information if you find them helpful.
P.S. If you are in Toronto, and you think you can take me under your wing for a while, let me know. I will be more thank happy and thankful