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Thread: Asked Out 30 Girls, What am I doing wrong?

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    Default Asked Out 30 Girls, What am I doing wrong?

    This last semester, I approached round 50 girls. I asked 30 of them out, and all of them rejected me or flaked out. My strategy is to cold approach since my social circle does not have any girls. When I talk to girls, I would talk about school and hobbies. I have been told that I am confident, but is not getting me anywhere. It could be my height since I am only 5 feet tall. I tried online dating and my height makes it difficult to find someone. What am I doing wrong?

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    Default Re: What am I doing wrong?

    Is anyone going to answer? I need help soon

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    Default Re: What am I doing wrong?

    sup m8, we can't tell you what you are doing wrong, unless you give more details, but I am going to give you hints what you Might be doing wrong, and you should figure out for yourself what you doing while talking to them.

    1) your height is a problem, if you think its a problem, so if anyone tells you something about your height, be playful about it.. you can use these(never used, im 5'11):
    - "Damn, I forgot my high heels at home."
    - "Come join me, weather is nice down here"
    2) there can be lots of different reasons why girls reject you:
    - Bodylanguage :
    *Is your body showing you have no spine?
    *Is your body showing you are going to stay talking to her for sometime, while telling her a 'false time constraint'?
    *Are you Looking Needy?
    *When you talk to the girl, are you looking like someone who never talked to a girl before?
    *Are you Tense or Relax?
    - Being Classified as the Boring/Normal Guys :
    *Are you using the right techniques to Attract her or you jumped stages and went straight to comfort (friendzone)?
    *Are you making the questions you ask, like and Interview ?
    *Are your questions boring (get to know the girl) - (Where you from, how old are you, what are some of your hobbies)
    - Voice Projection :
    *Are you using your voice like a man should, or you are talking from like 10 feet below ground, so she can't hear you
    *Are you stuttering or talking to fast?
    - Not grooming self well :
    *Do you keep your hair messy ?
    *Do you shave/trim your facial hair, or keep it like 'Bin Laden's :P'?
    *Do you put some effort in keeping the skin looking good, or you're full of blackheads and pimples?

    As for the Online Dating, it maybe your profile or even the Opener.

    These are some things which came to mind now there are more, so try reading some articles on this website.
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    Default Re: What am I doing wrong?

    You need to give more details!

    But I would take a guess that you are building a lot of comfort and not enough attraction.

    To build attraction you need to work on Kino (touch) and how to slowly escalate a conversation.

    A top tip is to just throw innuendo out like nobodies business. E.g. use a big word wait for them to ask what it means then say, that they can borrow your D1cktionary haha.

    credit to T-Mal for the above

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    Default Re: What am I doing wrong?

    When I talk to girls, I would talk about school and hobbies.
    schools pretty boring, the women will love it if you're passionate about the hobbies or whatever topic you're talking about, you'll be able to see a glisten in their eyes

    the above from bob and side is essential to success

    read up on some alpha guides too can't hurt and only iron some crinkles

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    Default Re: What am I doing wrong?

    I groom myself well. When I talk to a girl, I try to get her to talk about herself.

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    Default Re: Asked Out 30 Girls, What am I doing wrong?

    That sounds like the problem brother. Women will talk about themselves all f*cking day, and it's what they do with their friends. You've gotta make sure to dhv- demonstrate higher value. Cut them off because you have an important meeting next time, and get their number on your way out. neg, and DHV. Don't be the guy who has time to sit around and listen to their boring sh*t all day, these are called friends. Remember, you are the prize. It's great that you are approaching though, kudos.

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    Default Re: Asked Out 30 Girls, What am I doing wrong?

    I know this is old, but asking out 30 or 50 women a semester isn't really putting much effort out. With all the women the typical college campus offers, you should have almost unlimited numbers to talk to. If you talk to five women a day and go to school three days a week, you tried for two weeks.

    If the OP comes back and posts an actual story about a failed approach or a woman who flaked on him, we can ensure he does better this semester.
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    Default Re: Asked Out 30 Girls, What am I doing wrong?

    Quote Originally Posted by nik View Post
    I know this is old, but asking out 30 or 50 women a semester isn't really putting much effort out. With all the women the typical college campus offers, you should have almost unlimited numbers to talk to. If you talk to five women a day and go to school three days a week, you tried for two weeks.

    If the OP comes back and posts an actual story about a failed approach or a woman who flaked on him, we can ensure he does better this semester.


    Way to weed out the needle from the haystack here nik. Yes I agree making a blanket statement about doing 50 approaches and asking out 30 of them sounds half-hearted, weak, and purely insignificant. Let's see here a real world hardcore approach of an actual approach where you busted your balls and got nowhere then you will be getting somewhere and have our input to help you along that path of self-improvement. Saying you are confident and made 50 approaches doesn't help us understand where you are coming from and what's your sticking points we just need more details than this. But based on the explanation I would say that's your problem. Based on the information you are looking at this all wrong. This is not a numbers game. It's a mind over matter type of game, quality over quantity and all that. Sure numbers help if they are quality approaches. But just a bunch of banged out weak, lame, half-hearted, AFC sets with the wrong Mindset (I'm approaching I should be Alpha) is never going to get you anywhere just more AFC as we are seeing here. But again this is only based on the information provided and the poor perception you have of approaching.


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