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Thread: Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

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    Default Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

    ok, tonight i tried to overcome myself and break out of my shell. i went to a bar/club out in carlsbad in california. now I'm usually either dead asleep at 10 or i'm playing a game on my laptop. today i thought I'd try and break out of my shell and start to work on my non-existent game. when i first arrived at the place i noticed a few glances towards my way from a few girls. but that was all it was.

    as the night continued i tried to dance with a few girls but it didn't really work out. one of my sergeants (I'm in the military) told me to "accidentally" bump into a girl. he'd told me that i could either a) get a positive response and dance with the girl or b) get a slightly negative response as she giggled and went about her business with her friends. i tried what he said and i got the wrong type of answer from what he'd told me, what i got was just her raising her hand telling me straight out no as she walked away like i'd insulted her or something. later on i'm on the dance floor again and a girl started talking to me, but i couldn't hear what she was saying and kept telling her "what?". after her trying to repeat her question, her friend pulled her away and told her to stop talking to me.

    i gotta say, this night i felt like a fool for even trying to break out of my shell. and i also felt stupid for even trying. can somebody please help me with whatever it is that's causing me problems?

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    Default Re: Frickin' A

    Don't let that discourage you. You gotta start somewhere. Read up on the guides about inner game and just stay confident. When you're approaching women, you don't want to do so from behind. That throws them off.

    Another thing you can do is try a different place to meet women. A mall, for example. Focus on a conversation at first. Read this while you're at it. It may be useful - http://www.puaforums.com/how-approac...g-over-aa.html

    Don't give up - keep trying!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

    Yea don't give up, just keep your head up. What I would have done if that girl was trying to talk to me and I couldn't hear her I would say with a smile, "I can't hear you, it's too loud." or "Speak up I can't hear you!"

    Keep at it, you can't expect to be a "pro" the first time you go out. This should take a lot of time and patience. Learn from your mistakes and better yourself each and every day!

    Good luck

    p.s. Lay off the video games if you think that's causing a problem. Instead, find something to BETTER yourself. Whether it's reading a book, working out, running, etc. I know games are fun, and I've played my fair amount. But maybe it'll be a good break?

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    Default Re: Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

    When dancing and they cant hear u just say yeah or pretend like u hear. Then say its too loud lets just dance a little. Dance, spin her for easy Kino. Then when they play a song u don't like, pull her off the floor and say u want some water or something. Then while your drinking tell her u couldnt hear her on the floor ('when u spoke, all i heard is boom!boom!boom! LoL') And continue...

    Everyone else has given solid advice IMHO.
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    Default Re: Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

    Yeah, my game is pretty non existent too. But focus on the positive, you did get out there and approached 3 girls, that alone is a great first step. What you may find is that sometimes your in the zone and sometimes not. My problem tends to be some nights, I'm "on" and can be charming and even Number Close (granted it was a fake number, lol) and then other nights I clam up and won't talk or approach a single girl all night. So I know how you feel, but stay positive and keep at it.
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    Default Re: Frickin' A, Trying To Break Out Of My Shell

    Don't feel bad. In order to swing the fences, you gotta learn to strike out. So just keep swinging the bat and up your averages.

    As Babe Ruth said:

    "Never let the fear of striking out hold you back"

    "Every strike brings me closer to the next home run"

    FYI: In 1923, Babe Ruth broke the record for the most home runs, but he also struck out the most.


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