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Thread: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

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    Default have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    I'm just curious if anybody else experienced this?
    i've hooked up with this girl more than once, but something must have happened, or maybe it was gradual, but she barely talks to me. when she does it is very serious, and usually only about work-matters. And I don't think it's an act. I think she sincerely feels weird around me. I've noticed that if I sit near her, she will gather her belongings and move somewhere else. She doesn't make a big scene out of it, but it's noticeable to me.
    She doesn't glare at me or anything or treat me mean, - she's pretty nice to me as a matter of fact, but that's when she is not fleeing from me...

    what do you think is her issue? And what should I do?

    Has this happened to any of you? explain!

    oh, and she barely even LOOKS at me. she sort of avoids eye contact with me... what gives?
    Last edited by jellymint43; 01-10-2013 at 12:06 PM. Reason: added info

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    what do you think is her issue? And what should I do?
    not to get too far off topic but this reminds me of something i read in my social psycology book (for a class at uni)

    "often times people blame the persons personality for their behavior, when in reality their behavior is more likely caused by their social environment"

    she may have a friend who made things awkward for her, maybe she friendzoned you and then her friends thought she liked you, so they teased her about it and she decided to stop seeing you to keep from being harrassed by her friends.

    i wouldn't worry too much about this girl, her behavior may well be the result of factors that are out of your control.

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    i never had a girl uncomfortable, cause simply i don't care if she is uncomfortable

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    Ask her. You've already closed, and 99% of the time, women want to be open and express their feelings.

    I cannot underscore how much you will learn from women, just by asking them. Take the opportunity with every woman that you close, after the fact, to ask them what was it about you that attracted them and were there any points where you almost didn't seal the deal.

    In her case, be careful though. I'm not sure of your situation, but if you moved on, then the way she is responded is normal (provided she was getting mentally close to you).

    In any event, just get her to coffee, say "okay... i'd like to ask you an odd but honest question..." and just ask her.

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    Hmm, either you did something to weird her out or she's just uncomfortable with the situation. Either way, I'd say act completely casual and wait for an opportunity to talk with her causally.

    Try to make it a normal conversation, ask her about work or how she's doing, just something kind of nice and friendly but of course confident. I wouldn't try to tease her or act all cocky and funny. The idea is to get rid of the weird uncomfortable feelings and make it where everything is cool and normal and you guys hooking up is not a big deal.

    Hooking up with someone at work can be kind of risky because you have to keep on seeing them whether it works out or not. So you're going to have to power through it to make sure it doesn't stay weird. And the sooner the better.

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Jay Diamond View Post
    i never had a girl uncomfortable, cause simply i don't care if she is uncomfortable
    Just because you don't care if she is uncomfortable or not is irrelevant, Because she may still be uncomfortable. Your logic confuses me.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    -she might want u to chase her
    -she might think u're an ass hole and wants nothing to do with you
    Either way don't talk to her anymore
    "The world will never change much less become what you want it to be. The only thing that can change is you. Face your fears, grow stronger and become what you want to be."
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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    -she might want u to chase her
    -she might think u're an ass hole and wants nothing to do with you
    Either way don't talk to her anymore
    @Op,exactly the same thing happened to me,I was like best friends with this girl i work with,I'm actually the only guy there,so I'm always playful/cocky funny with all the girls,and they all love me,i just make friends with everyone so i could get away with things if i need to,in the future,so they won't shit talk behind my back about me being lazy or something like that(like they try to shit talk others with me,i just don't support them).

    Anyways,one day i noticed there's a weird vibe around this girl,i tried finding out indirectly,what the problem was and i couldn't figure it out.I just stopped giving a damn about her,and i get so much non verbal attention from her,but nothing more,at this point she wants me to talk to her and laugh with her,but i just don't do this,I don't play no games,i don't chase anyone,you wanna have fun,interest me.

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    Default Re: have you ever had a girl very uncomfortable around you?

    Sometimes people change. Maybe she was looking for something specific and you weren't it. Maybe meteora's right and it's something external. Whether it's salvageable or not, I wouldn't sweat too much about it.

    Things like packing up and leaving are pretty clear indications that there's something standing in between you. Personally, given that it's a work situation I would cool it and wait on it for a pretty long time. That's just my take.

    If I had to guess at her intentions it sounds like she may be wanting to break things off but is afraid to do anything that could cause drama. Ain't nothin' wrong with no drama.
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