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    Default want a lunch date, need help

    I want to get this girl i met out on a casual lunch date where neither of us has that "commitment" feeling; casual with a large hint of attraction

    I want to do it through texting, but i'm sort lost about how ask her in the best way:

    should I tell her something like... theres this restaurant i want to try out, its called ______, you should accompany me

    or should i be more direct and say something like... we should grab lunch next day or this day, wait for her response, then ask her where she wants to go?

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    Default Re: want a lunch date, need help

    T-Mal has a good guide on this forum if you are planning a date via text.

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-text-gi...nal-bible.html

    All your questions will be addressed there.

    I'd steer clear from words like "you should." Weak.

    If you know she likes a particular type of food, take the initiative and find/pick a place. Don't ask her where she wants to go. You can probe her first if you not sure.

    You: "Have you ever been to [X restaurant]?"
    Her: "No"
    You: "I heard their [Pan-pacific fusion dish] is one of the best in town. Let's go multicultural together! 7:33 pm. Be there or be a bumpkin."

    Have several options ready.

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    Default Re: want a lunch date, need help

    Thanks for the advise

    I'm a little hesitant on texting like the guide because I came off really man-whore when we first met, I think she has interest in me, and I don't want to intimidate her. I want her to know that i'm not trying to get into her pants, i want to get to know her first.

    Shes taking classes, so i know that there are time slots where she can't go eat or w/e.

    I think i read somewhere that saying ... " i want you to come" or some variation that includes " i want" is good but it sounds weird and needy to me.

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    Default Re: want a lunch date, need help

    I'm a little hesitant on texting like the guide because I came off really man-whore when we first met, I think she has interest in me, and I don't want to intimidate her. I want her to know that i'm not trying to get into her pants, i want to get to know her first.
    Don't let that cripple your game. The biggest problem that hold guys back from sexual escalation is guys worry about the girls going to look at them as trying to get into their pants.

    If they come off as pervents or dirty old men, it's only because they do it wrong (come off too strong, touchy feeling invading space off the bat, didn't escalate). Jon Sinn's seduction roadmap explains this well and how to escalate and get her to commit based on the principle of "Consistency and commitment."

    Even though you came off as a man-whore, she was attracted to you enough to give you her number. It worked. The fact that she picked up your phone calls in the past is good. Sometimes I have to send a 'ping' text just to get women to pick up their phones or else hardly anyone answers their phones these days.

    She already knows you are probably trying to get into her pants (which ultimately you are). I don't know the exact details of what you said to convey your "man-whoreness" but if your inner game ain't broke, don't fix it.

    I'm not sure what kind of sexual Tension there was between you two. But whatever that attraction was previously, you want to continue off on it.

    Shes taking classes, so i know that there are time slots where she can't go eat or w/e.
    The fact that you know the dates she blocked out puts you at a strategic advantage.

    I think i read somewhere that saying ... " i want you to come" or some variation that includes " i want" is good but it sounds weird and needy to me.
    Well it depends on how well you know her and how well she knows how you are. If you feel uncomfortable with "I want" then don't do it. Personally, it does sound needy and I would and have never ever written that in my text.

    Some variations are "Let's/Join me/Be there" It's more making a statement rather than putting the ball in her court to give her a choice through a question.


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