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Thread: Banter Tips?

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    Default Banter Tips?

    Hey guys,

    To be honest, I'm mostly into this PUA stuff for myself as I'm in highschool. I don't go around trying to pick up chicks, but I like the idea of pick up because it encourages you to be the best you you can.


    I've been reading alpha male stuff, applying it to my life, and I've noticed changes with everything. I'm a much better person in social interactions than I was a year ago.

    But my sticking point is when I'm talking, it's not that I'm nervous, I'm really confident, I just can't find anything good to say that's playful or funny.

    So I thought it would be a good idea to make a thread for bantering tips as that's really what's holding me back, is peaking attraction with what I say, I need to get better at Kino as well, but I feel as if my speaking skills need to come first.

    So if everybody could leave specific situations that worked for them, and just general tips, I feel as if everybody could benefit from a thread like this.

    Thanks guys.

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    Lightbulb Re: Banter Tips?

    You can keep almost any conversation going continuously by making a comment on what the girl said and asking a related follow up question. For example, let's say you the girl what university she plans on attending and she responds with the University of San francisco, you can multiple thread that a number of ways. You can discuss the warm weather of cali, what she plans on studying, etc. Good Luck!
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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    treat every convo like she's dangling little hooks to talk about, props to I'm pretty sure it was David D And I'm gonna use an example from the forum, in response to a general question how was your weekend? ::: her::: it was awesome , we went skiing at Mt Buller, the snow was amazing except they had a few runs closed, mostly black runs, and the pommers were cool! " there's a lot of paths you can go wwith this

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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    Quote Originally Posted by Edgemaster View Post
    You can keep almost any conversation going continuously by making a comment on what the girl said and asking a related follow up question. For example, let's say you the girl what university she plans on attending and she responds with the University of San francisco, you can multiple thread that a number of ways. You can discuss the warm weather of cali, what she plans on studying, etc. Good Luck!
    This usually works for me, but I get to a point where I'm getting tired of asking "small talk" questions. What's the next step?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Whitelion6 View Post
    This usually works for me, but I get to a point where I'm getting tired of asking "small talk" questions. What's the next step?
    In my opinion, you should be rapidly advancing into deeper questions (i.e., more personal). Otherwise, you never go anywhere and she doesn't feel any connection with you because it was just a surface conversation.

    Things like "If you could do anything without consequences" will probably get her to talk about aspirations, restrictions as to why she can't do certain things because of family/friend/financial obligations. Now she's given personal details, and you have a connection because you know you things that typically only some of her girlfriends would know.

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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    Quote Originally Posted by itam View Post
    In my opinion, you should be rapidly advancing into deeper questions (i.e., more personal). Otherwise, you never go anywhere and she doesn't feel any connection with you because it was just a surface conversation.

    Things like "If you could do anything without consequences" will probably get her to talk about aspirations, restrictions as to why she can't do certain things because of family/friend/financial obligations. Now she's given personal details, and you have a connection because you know you things that typically only some of her girlfriends would know.
    Thank you for responding. Any other example that could get the girl to open a little more?

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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    If you want to get the girl to open to you, as in qualifying then this is the 3rd stage in attraction. Make sure you dhv, and if you notice she qualify's (open's up) by saying something impressive that is not relevant to the conversation, she qualified her self. If she doesn't however, make sure you DHV and then ask "what are your 3 most positive dominate qualities" or something along those lines. The point is to open your self up first, making your self vulnerable to make the girl comfortable so she can do the same.

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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    ask questions out of the ordinary. If you want to learn about banter watch some of david D's material. I suggest cocky comedy or bars and clubs.

    I don't remember where i heard this one but i usually ask them this: If you could date one of the following which one would you choose. A lawyer, a muscician, a sporter at high level or a director. Whatever they say you can interpet it at a way to make fun of her.

    I usually try to make fun of almost anything she says, when you do that it usually leads to Kino automatically or she gets annoyed. Depends on the girl. If you do it correctly she usually starts pushing you and laughing and you can push back and stuff

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    Default Re: Banter Tips?

    All good info, I hope

    As always, I appreciate the responses.


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