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    Angry How to get over haters?

    God I'm so pissed.
    I had a wonderful evening, my wing and I were having an awesome time, but all of a sudden, these two guys start giving us sh1t for nothing. And with that, my entire night is ruined.
    Is there anything other than "just don't give a crap about them" that I could use to not have this happen again?

    I get it. Haters gonna hate, and there's always going to be haters, but how do I keep it from getting to me like this?

    I could really use some help...
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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    How did they "give you shit" ?

    I'm sure someone really good would offer you advice if you were more specific about the situation and what specifically happened.
    ...as opposed to just saying "haters gonna hate"
    .-* WWWEEE *-.

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    What exactly did they do/say that ruined your night?
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    we were just dancing on the dancefloor, checking girls out, they come next to us, and start staring us down, and ask us what we are staring at. telling us we dance like idiots, and pushing us away...
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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    We're talking pro level haters here...
    Music, Girls, Anything else?

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    They were probably just looking to fight. Just force them into a beta role. If they're staring at you just let them know you aren't gay. If they're pushing you, just turn your back to them.

    Friday a guy kept bumping into me and i said, "if you wanted to dance all you had to do was ask. I would had said no, but it would had been less awkward than this." Then his fake girlfriend tried to get at me with, "Leave my boyfriend alone, if you want to go to the gay club I'll take you there right now." I simply replied, "Let's be honest, he isn't your boyfriend, he is just a good friend that you've friend zoned and feel like you have to defend. Also, we should definitely go to the gay club, let's go." She just said, "You're ridiculous dude," and walked away. My point is with experience you'll start to realize how to handle different situations and you'll sometimes even see things other people wish you didn't. Just keep pushing through and learn from all the different external circumstances but don't let them get to you if you can't find a solution. You'll stumble upon the solution sooner or later as long as you keep going out.
    Caveat: Just because I feel a certain way about my journey doesn't mean you should feel the same about yours.

    If you can't say that you would rather die than not do it; you don't want it bad enough.

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    See, when ever i go to a club, i really never get messed with. It's probably cause of my size (6'3 285 lbs. I play football in college after all).

    I have, however been AMOGed in a non-threatening way, and it basically all comes down to being more witty than the other guy. If a guy says something to try and down me, i usually roll with it and use it to my advantage. Being comfortable with a "flaw" that they pointed out, turns out to me more alpha than them poking fun at you.

    That has been my experience, anyway.

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    If you've ever read Mystery method on Social Dynamics, he explains that our emotions were programmed to react the way they would thousands of years ago. So your emotions will, as Mystery would say, "screw with you," because they are programmed to keep you out of harms way. But remember, violence isn't one of the attraction switches for women, and the leader of men needs to know how to keep a cool head. So later that night when you're hooking up in the corner he's trying to figure out, "how you got the girl when he's the asshole." Women aren't about assholes, they're about confidence. Your confidence should be knowing that you're the guy taking care of business and he's the sore thumb watching. Remember bud, haters only hate when they recognize a threat or get jealous of traits you possess that they don't. Keep your head up and to avoid haters, approach sets off the bat. Haters may hate but they rarely have the balls to walk into a set.

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    Quote Originally Posted by theSkap View Post
    we were just dancing on the dancefloor, checking girls out, they come next to us, and start staring us down, and ask us what we are staring at. telling us we dance like idiots, and pushing us away...
    There are two ways to handle haters, male or female.

    This is one method.
    Kino's How to Handle an Insult

    What are you looking at?
    "You got me, I was staring at you. I think I have a man crush, I simply can't stop staring."

    You dance like idiots.
    "Thanks, bro idiots ARE the best dancers. Wait until I break out my epileptic harlem shake. It's gonna be epic."

    Personally, if someone pushed me I probably would have been real violent real quick but assuming we are taking the higher road you would want to set a frame trap. See below.


    The second method which would have been a better option is what I call a frame trap. It means making it socially awkward or embarrassing to continue on their current course of action.

    You could have laughed turned to some girls in proximity and said "Hey check out these guys, they are so in need of attention. I think they are trying to intimidate us, it so funny. Do it again. It's so awesome. I think the big one wants to fight us or something. He's so macho, right? Ladies tell him how macho he is. Come on, flex your muscles and make a mean face for the ladies."

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    Default Re: How to get over haters?

    When you become confident enough of yourself, you'll start give less about what haters think. As for these guys trying to start a fight.... well I'd probably punch 'em, lol. Not the best PUA/alpha advice though, so don't take it. If I'd be in a really good/happy state and unwilling to fight, I'd probably pull some smart-ass line like the ones Suave Kino provided in the post above.


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