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    Default Telling girls your intentions ?

    I've never really told a girl my intentions soo.. lets say you meet this type of girl who has sex with a lot of guys, very outgoing or just sexually active, and you tell her exactly what your intentions are.. for example.

    Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you, I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you-..

    ..- if anything happens between us then it does, I'm not going to change around you just because of that.

    Cause I've meet this girl, we done things and its like not clear, there's this sexual attraction but after a while it kind of went dull, I'm certain its still there cause it looks like it but w/e.

    What do you guys think ?

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Brutal. Just....brutal lol.

    You are approaching it from a logical standpoint. And as we know...women are primarily emotional creatures. Never try to CONVINCE a woman why she should sleep with you essentially. It's not coming from a position of power, therefore it is pathetic. You might as well be saying "Hey, I promise that if you come over I won't try to hook up with you while you are passed out. And I definitely wouldn't murder you." She's just going to be freaked the hell out. Change her mood, not her mind.

    Don't take me wrong. I am all about not hiding your intention. But that is just not the way to go about it. Focus on using your actions to show her, not your words.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    I was told by a friend of mine who gets around nice that, when you tell those type of girls exactly what you want from them not like ''Hey, I want to do stuff with you'' I'm saying telling her bluntly you're trying to be friends cause those type of chicks could just call any guy and get it done you know.

    I never said women in general just girls who are at ease when it comes to guys. Cause I was also told that walking around the pot too long will never get you anything with any women.

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    I do get what you are saying. And your friend is right. However, those women are NOT all around (and not always the best looking) and even tougher to spot without experience. And even then... she can always change her mind when you get back to her place and half her clothes are off. I'd rather play a solid game to make sure I increase my chances. We got into this game because we got tired of "getting lucky."

    So if you do find one that is like that and is attractive then saying "Hey I want to do stuff to you," is very different than saying "Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you, I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you-..- if anything happens between us then it does, I'm not going to change around you just because of that."

    One is being forward/confident and the other is trying to convince her.
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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Dude, this

    'Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you, I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you - if anything happens between us then it does, I'm not going to change around you just because of that.'

    is NOT telling her your intentions. You want to have sex with this girl. Now, it takes some balls to tell a woman you're into exactly what you want to do with her, and those might take some months to grow as you need to become alpha and confident, but telling your intentions would sound something like this:

    'I want to have sex with you'

    What are these "things" you talk of doing with her? If it's anything sexual, the step to telling her your intentions shouldn't be that big.

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Yeah bro, not to beat a dead horse here, but this reeks of beta. Here's what she hears:

    Quote Originally Posted by ablindman9 View Post
    Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you,
    She thinks: "I've heard this from every guy in my friend zone"

    I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you-..
    She thinks: "Uhh, then why did we do stuff - and why is he always glancing at my boobs?"

    ..- if anything happens between us then it does,
    She thinks: "Really? Cuz you kinda just said you DIDN'T want anything to happen."

    I'm not going to change around you just because of that.
    She thinks: "Change? WTH does that even mean? Did he like change for an ex-gf or something? Baggage!"
    Telling her your intentions is only either "Let's fark." or "We're not gonna fark" Simple as that. Plus there's that "I'm not going to change part" which I don't really get why you would need to tell her that. Tell her you want to fool around (to build attraction for Direct Game) or tell her you don't want to (to put her in the friendzone and build attraction for Indirect Game).

    P.s. I'm assuming this is a chick you are gaming
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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you, I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you-..
    As Simon Cowell would say..."That was absolutely horrendous."

    As BatMan said women don't respond to logic as well as emotion. The only logic women understand is I + U = 69

    You need to talk to them in innuendo and keep it funny to get them aroused. If you talk to them like how you did, that's probably why it went dull. If you knew her for a while and there was good sexual Tension, you need to talk to her on something along the lines of this:

    "Hey, let's go to Vegas, get married by a fake pastor, hump like lions, argue about our third's kid name, divorce, and grow old and depressed."

    That's keeping it interesting. If she is the sexually liberated type, teasing, word-play can do you no wrong as no girl wants to feel like a slut (unless that's her profession = damaged goods).

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Honestly this girl I'm gaming mostly gets flirted by anyone around. I do agree things got dull but I've brought it back many times, hell I'm acting even really careless around her.

    Just yesterday she was around, I was flirting with her friend and an other girl instead of her. But..

    I love these tips because I've done them before but never realized them, at first she was crazy attracted to me when I was playing it carelessly. It went dull since I became too reaction seeking after a while now its not like that.

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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    I'm not sure what your goal is with her. But whether you just want a FWB or relationship you should still do the same thing vaguely.

    And that is, at some point she needs to know she is special to you. Ideally you have to do this AFTER she is attracted to you. Otherwise you'll look a bit needy. But if you don't eventually show her she's special to you then things will get dull (like you mentioned) and you end up in this cycle that gets stale because you aren't taking it to the next level. A deeper level. Of rapport and intimacy.

    Don't listen to guys that say letting a woman know you're interested is needy and beta. That's ridiculous! The only difference between it looking beta vs alpha is timing. Too soon and you look beta and she'll feel like she hasn't done anything to really earn your interest. Too late and you STILL look beta because it'll seem like your afraid to show interest in her. Get your timing right and you'll be fine.
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    Default Re: Telling girls your intentions ?

    Quote Originally Posted by ablindman9 View Post
    I've never really told a girl my intentions soo.. lets say you meet this type of girl who has sex with a lot of guys, very outgoing or just sexually active, and you tell her exactly what your intentions are.. for example.

    Hey when I call you I do it cause I want to hang out with you, I don't want you to think I do because I'm trying to do something with you-..

    ..- if anything happens between us then it does, I'm not going to change around you just because of that.

    Cause I've meet this girl, we done things and its like not clear, there's this sexual attraction but after a while it kind of went dull, I'm certain its still there cause it looks like it but w/e.

    What do you guys think ?
    So, let me explain my philosophy on this. First of all, if you act like its casual then you don't need to state the obvious. If she has sex with a lot of guys, then she understands the drill...pun intended.

    If she calls you out on wanting sex then don't deny it, that's just lying. I had a woman call me out and it went like this.

    "You're just trying to get in my pants but it's not going to work"

    "Of course, I want in your pants. You are sexy as hell with those big brown eyes and sexy smile. So hell yes I want in your pants, just like every other red blooded hetreosexual american male you meet."

    One day later she's naked in my bed. You don't have to jump the gun and offer the information but if called out you don't have to lie.


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