Re: calling a girl out, help.
Look at it this way. If you are cool about everything, then whenever she realizes that she doesn't/can't see you, it's ok, because she knows you'll be cool with it. So she's gonna go see the guy she knows would walk away and call her on her shit because she doesn't want to screw things up with him. You then become the solid backup plan instead of first priority.
However, if you call her on her shit, she will feel like you are trying to control her. Also she will feel that you are too much drama when she just wants to have fun. You then become a buzz kill and she will drop you.
Here's a little secret. The secret is to ONLY state your standards and expectations. Why? Because you aren't telling her what to do and you aren't letting her get away with it. You simply say, "I like a woman who is straight forward and consistent with what she says. When a woman lies or flakes it is just such a turn off." Most women like being attractive. Telling her she turned you off devalidates her attractiveness and it will hit her hard.
Now make no mistake. DO NOT expect her to just apologize and kiss your ass. You did just say she was unattractive after all. She will get angry and defensive most likely. But it doesn't matter. You simply say what you have to say, then walk away. NEVER argue or try to convince her you're right. A man of value already knows he's right.
She will then think about what she's done and become more attracted to you and will respect you. Because you didn't try to control her and you didn't let her walk all over you. How long this takes isn't definite. Could be a day or a week. And this also doesn't guarantee she will come around either. You may lose her and you have to be prepared for that. Take it as a favor if she never came back. But if she does, she WILL try harder and be more careful about making you upset again because you are a man of value that doesn't put up with that behavior.
This was a bit wordy but I hope this helped. Good luck.
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