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    Default The always hated "maybe"

    So just curious as to how you guys all reply when a girl answers with "maybe" when you ask her something. I think its annoying but a part those little games women like to play

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    Maybe means yes. That's what every mPUA I've heard speak on the subject say. If she wanted to say no, she would have. Play it like it was a yes.

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    Thats what I figure. But any good come backs to the maybe. Like something clever, funny, cocky?

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    It has to be in context. I mean, how can anyone give you help if you don't put it into context. For instance:

    PUA: Do you want to grab a drink sometime?
    HB: Maybe.
    PUA: Hey, I have plenty of other people to spend time, if you're going to be a flake I'll just as soon spend my time with someone else.

    Just don't take that shit.

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    "Maybe"...

    If I ask someone to dance/drink/date with me and she doubts, I'll say with a wink and smile "I don't want you to if you are in doubt about drinking/dancing/... with me" I turn around and walk away. 9/10 she'll stop me.

    I think TheDuke's answer is too harsh and shows he is freightened about something that did not happen (yet). You have to be in the now. "Maybe" shows doubt. She is in doubt now, she is not flaking now. Reject doubt, don't reject something that might happen. Even accepting doubt is better than rejecting something that might happen:

    "You are not sure? That's ok. Well, think it over for a while. I will go fetch a drink with/dance with her, maybe I'll see you later". And if you do see her later, ask her again. Or in a dating context: "You are not sure? Well that's ok. I will go do something with X then. See you later!" Only say the last part if it's really true. You don't want to come across as a hard salesman.

    You can change the "I'll see you later" with "now you owe me one". Sometimes it will make her invest her in searching you to dance or drink with you or call you to arrange a date.

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post

    PUA: Do you want to grab a drink sometime?
    HB: Maybe.
    PUA: Hey, I have plenty of other people to spend time, if you're going to be a flake I'll just as soon spend my time with someone else.

    Just don't take that sh1t.
    Asking that way is almost a guaranteed flake if not an immediate no. I get what you're trying to do, though. To avoid maybes and how to respond if you get them:

    You - Drinks Saturday night at 7:04 sharp! See you there
    Hb - Mabye
    You - It's a yes or no, sweetie

    In fact, I just dealt with something like this a few minutes ago:

    http://www.puaforums.com/how-talk-gi...html#post81437

    Took a while to get the format right, but that'll give you a good idea of where to take it!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: The always hated "maybe"

    telling her that you're going to make plans with someone else if she doesn't give you an answer shows that you aren't going to wait around for her crap games which is alpha, your time is valuable and if she wants to spend it with you well she can but why let her have her maybe way and annoy you?

    David D recommended using maybe to almost every question (if its suitable), it's pretty powerful stuff

    as for dealing with it, i'd go with TheDukes way, it's not harsh, it's the truth


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