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Thread: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

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    Default How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    I find that when I go out and meet girls, there are times when I get turned down 2-3 times in a row and it kind of knocks my confidence level back. I usually end up retreating and then starting back up the next day or a few days later. That works, but how do I keep my confidence level high and not give a F when I'm on a cold streak?

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    I love cold streaks. Every time a woman rejects me, and I feel like i dont have a shot, I ask what I did wrong. I learn from every mistake I do.

    Honestly, the only way you will feel alpha is if you simply dont care about women so much. Dont take it to heart that they reject you. PUA is a skill. Everyone starts a noob. Are the best chefs in the top notch restaurants- they used to make crappy dishes too. Think of it as a game- youre improving and having fun while youre at it.

    The only way to not care is to improve self game and inner image and not care about women as much. Thats hard because the lack of women makes you want them even more. But the solution to that is just keep trying. go to parties. Hell, even get drunk to be alpha if that solves the catch 22.- to get with women, you need to be with women (to not crave them).

    just my 5 cents on the matter. Could probably add more, but im tired. Ill update this (or a later post) later.

    GOod luck. Only solution to this problem is to plow through it and keep on sarging and build self confidence.

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    Yeah, do what the guy said. Be upfront about it. Ask where you went wrong. Learning what you're doing wrong directly from the source (a female) is the best way you'll learn.

    After you walk away from her, to help your confidence, smell your fingers, and know you probably saved them from smelling like rotting fish

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    Thanks Big Shawn, those are some good tips! I find that when approaching girls, I take the Mindset of just opening a conversation and introducing myself rather than "closing" or "taking her home". It takes a lot of pressure off me and makes it more relaxed / fun.

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    I find that when I go out and Meet Girls, there are times when I get turned down 2-3 times in a row and it kind of knocks my confidence level back. I usually end up retreating and then starting back up the next day or a few days later. That works, but how do I keep my confidence level high and not give a F when I'm on a cold streak?
    the best way to keep your confidence high is to find ways to laugh about it, make it like a game to see just how bad you can get blown out of a set and have fun with it. by making it fun and laughing at yourself when you get blown out you won't get down about it. also never take rejection personaly. when you start getting emotional about it its no longer a game. you can always start over with another girl. you have to realize that it is a numbers game, the more girls you talk to, the more likely you will succeed with one. don't let rejection discourage you. and if you are going to let it affect your confidence, pua is not for you. it really is just a game and even the best pua's in the world still face some rejection. you just have to learn to move on and be happy and confident for the next girl you meet

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    Why do you get rejected?

    "Sorry, I already have a BF?"
    "You are not my type"
    "I can't/don't have time..."
    Whatever...

    Accept the rejection and let your personality shine. "I understand you ... (fill in: you have a BF, I am not your type, you don't have time... whatever), but I think you are cool because X and Y and I would still like to get to know you." If she still rejects you, she will at least think you are charming, which might open the door later on.

    Most of the time it's their ASD speaking. Accepting the rejection is a way to bypass it, a way to take you out of the game and a way of disqualifying yourself. In a way she is not rejecting you, she is rejecting the way you came on to her.

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    Accept the rejection and let your personality shine. "I understand you ... (fill in: you have a BF, I am not your type, you don't have time... whatever), but I think you are cool because X and Y and I would still like to get to know you." If she still rejects you, she will at least think you are charming, which might open the door later on.
    gaming from the friendzone is a rough way to game. don't waist your time! i know from personal experience that you don't want to do this unless you just want her as a friend and nothing more. if you are looking for a relationship this is a bad start for one (not to say that you can't turn it into a relationship, but its more work than its worth) it is far easier to move on, and moving on will save you from alot of heartache.

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    Default Re: How do you sustain a high alpha confidence level?

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    gaming from the friendzone is a rough way to game. don't waist your time! i know from personal experience that you don't want to do this unless you just want her as a friend and nothing more. if you are looking for a relationship this is a bad start for one (not to say that you can't turn it into a relationship, but its more work than its worth) it is far easier to move on, and moving on will save you from alot of heartache.
    When you both just met, you are not yet in the friendzone even if you accept her rejection. You can still frame it in a way that YOU don't know yet how YOU feel about her, but you do know she's cool because of X and Y, and that's why you want to get to know her better. You are still in control the frame. Most rejection early on are a result from the guy who is bulldozing like a player (physically by capitalizing on the early attraction without enough comfort) or like a nice guy (starting with to deep of emotional conversation and trying to build too much report and comfort without a reason). It's a different story to get rejected after years and years of friendship when you know each other through and through. That's gaming from the friendzone.


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