Get INTO your head
Today, while listening to my Tyler Durden audio tapes, I learned something very interesting that I think your problem may be.
I think there are two reasons to why you are uncomfortable with offending women.
You are too dependent on her.
Right now, you are worried about saying the wrong thing just because you think you will lose her. The easiest way for you to relax is to just kick it back and try to let the woman convince you that she's your kind of girl. The first time I ever screwed up a pickup, I got really hot in the head from embarrassment and the thought that I did something wrong. And then a thought went through my head:
"Oh yea, there's billions of more fish in the sea. Why does one girl matter?"
Immediately after that, I felt all better. In fact, I felt even better than better, I felt like I had learned something productive that would help me with my future approaches.
You don't know yourself
This is some deep, Lion King type stuff right here, and it is exactly like the movie too. Can you answer these questions immediately?
* What kind of woman are you looking for?
* What kind of guy are you?
* What are your beliefs?
* What are your strengths? Your faults?
* What do you want out of life?
And most importantly:
* WHO ARE YOU?
Most guys lack naturality and confidence because they don't know themselves. We end up charging headfirst into battle without knowing who or what we are fighting for in the first place. Before you go into any situation, know what kind of person you are, and know what kind of person you are looking for in the first place. It will help you out with approaches and make you more confident when it comes to conversing with women.
As you can see above, the problem is not trying to get outside of your head. The problem is getting INSIDE of your head to change it. Do that, and things will become way easier for you.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X