As everyone may know, Facebook has now become an integral part of social life. People have been interacting in ways ranging from pokes to status updates. Facebook has also been evolving into a way to meet people and potentially even form whole relationships online.
Although this is excellent for maintaining contact with friends, one big challenge I view is successfully meeting people on Facebook. It's already tough enough to friend a random person and then approach them without ever having met them in your entire life.
Before I get to the meat of my questions, I will throw out what I do know and what some of my successes, failures, and learning experiences have been.
I have discovered that the poke game is extremely effective at sparking interest in a girl. What I do is simply poke her, and when she pokes back, I ask "Did you poke me?" (NOTE: I did take this approach from a different thread). From there, I maintain humor in the conversation and keep the ball rolling.
Other openers I have used involve the "Alien neg", "congratulations " and the "Who are you?" openers. The alien neg (also got this from a different thread) goes along the line of an alien invasion taking all of the hot people and telling the girl she's alright, but you're going. If delivered right, it has the effect of drawing immediate responses. The next one is congratulating someone for being in your thoughts. So far, I have had no success with this one. Same thing goes for the "Who are you?" opener. It involves asking who a girl is and then telling her that you were just messing with her. I believe that one failed just because it was Facebook, not text, and someone I was already familiar with.
As for other things with messaging, it's good to remain relatively quick with your responsiveness. In terms of speed or length, I mean both. It's good to entertain her and entertain yourself as you're doing it. I've discovered that if I do entertain myself as I'm in the conversation, it becomes incredibly easier for me to move the conversation along. Never let the conversation fall into the gray chasm, as I would picture it. This means boring messages that consists of "lols" "okay" "nice" and typical questions. If you keep it interesting, the discussion will stay interesting itself. Last, but not least, keep it short. You started it, you finish it. If it seems things between the two of you are going extremely well, then this rule does not have to apply.
One thing I have also learned and serving good use is basically pimping out your profile. I went through mine and deleted all stupid posts, cut down irrelevant or bad profile information, and made sure the best looking pictures of me were most prominent. I can't say what effect this has had yet, although I would say it certainly looks more entertaining and mature.
Now, here comes the unresolved questions I have. So far, I have been practicing these messaging techniques with people I am already familiar with. However, I have no idea how to approach a woman on Facebook out of clear nothing. There is also a more confusing scenario for me where I don't know the girl, I have poked her, but I do know her friends very well. My final concern is post content. I realize it is always important to show value, but I remember Tyler Durden stating that women really don't care about things like money, jobs, and blah, blah, blah (I do agree with this by the way). The jig of it is this: what kind of statuses and comments can I post that will show I am a man of interest?
Additional ideas or insights into this topic would also be highly appreciated. You can never get enough knowledge into these sort of things.