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Thread: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

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    Default How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    Ok first something about myself:

    I used to be very fat and very unattractive so I never had a gf before. I recently lost all that weight, and now I feel like I have a shot at girls. My problem is I know nothing about this game.

    My positives:
    -above average face, people say I look like Mario Lopez
    -Very stylish clothes, etc

    My negatives:
    -Very obvious baby face
    -Very obvious nice guy
    - 5 foot 8, lower average for an 18 year old (my age)
    - No girls in my course at Uni
    - Im indian, lots of negative stereotypes follow, but I dont have an indian accent, i live in England and I sound like anyone else here

    Ok now the problem

    Ive started at night clubs. And Im very good at opening to girls in a group. The way I do it works and the whole group looks at me like this guy might actually know what hes doing.

    After this I ruin it, I dont know how. I can talk to a girl or two for about a minute till she gets bored, or maybe she sees its not going anywhere, and she and the group go away from me after making an excuse.

    How do I do this? Im new to this whole thing. Any example full conversations from average/below average looking pua's anywhere?

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    After this I ruin it, I dont know how. I can Talk To A Girl or two for about a minute till she gets bored, or maybe she sees its not going anywhere, and she and the group go away from me after making an excuse.
    i'm willing to bet that you are probably going all comfort and no attraction. have you tried using any false disqualifiers? or even jokes? odds are you need to learn to play hard to get, and make girls laugh.

    also, i sense some major inner confidence issues. the fact that you listed positives and negatives about your looks shows that you aren't comfortable in your own skinn. you need to learn to accept yourself for who you are and not care about what features you have and don't have, because ultimately looks don't matter. how can you expect woman to be comfortable around you if you can't be comfortable around yourself?

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    I agree with meteora. I think the number 1 thing you need to do is beef up your inner game. Everyone has their "weaknesses". It doesn't matter if you are 6' 3" and are the best physically looking guy in the world. Everyone has their thing. The key is to do your best with your "weaknesses" and focus on your strengths. You listed a bunch of positive. Focus on that. There's more, you just don't realize it.
    So that is the number 1 thing.

    After that, I think since you are starting out, you need to practice the steps of the game. Opening, building attraction, comfort, etc.. It's a sequential process. Lots of good free material out there. STart with those.
    Good luck man!
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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    Im comfortable in my own skin, I just mentioned those points to highlight that I cant just go up to a girl and say hey I think youre cute or something. I have to work my way into her being attracted to me.

    With regards to jokes etc, I dont know how to do that with a total stranger. With friends its easy. If Is there like a basic starter book or something to help me with that?

    Im sure lots of people have faced this problem when they were starting out. I have no idea how to keep myself interesting in conversation?

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    I dont know how to do that with a total stranger. With friends its easy. If Is there like a basic starter book or something to help me with that?
    you are just proving me right you know. you aren't comfortble enough in your own skin until you are just as comfortable talking to total strangers as you are talking to close friends. the solution to your problem is quite simple, you just need alot more experience talking to strangers and joking around with them. i definately recomend reading this
    http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j...BfMDSBGeYQ8Ipg

    it will empower you to be honest with others (especialy strangers) and should help fix your inner game problem. as for jokes watch stand up comedians on youtube.

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    First of all thanks both of you for replying, I genuinely appreciate all the help I can get.

    Yeah I suppose Im not entirely comfortable because Ive never had girl before. So it is a bit nervewrecking talking to strangers. Especially when i dont what the hell it is im doing. Im gonna give that book a read, but Im still curious, how do conversations progress with you. To me its baffling how guys can go from not even knowing someone to progressing the conversation further and further till the girl is in their bed. On a social level that makes no sense to me. I was wondering if someone could explain typically what happens

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    the book "mystery methode" by mystery breaks the proccess down into 3 stages each with 3 steps,

    attraction,
    a1- approach and open (catch their interest with your opener)
    a2- female to male interest (the social hook point where the girl shows interest in you and wants you to stay and talk, girl gives ioi's and you reward with kino)
    a3- male to female interest (girl dhv's to you, and you reward her with ioi's and kino)

    comfort.
    c1-conversation (you share a friendly dialog after getting the attraction you need, a sense of comfort and raport developes)
    c2-connection- both parties get a good cibe that "it is on" Kino Escalation, kissing occurs, (may last over several dates)
    c3-intimacy- more kissing and heavier kino, usually carries into seduction quickly

    seduction
    s1-foreplay- heavy kissing, kino, carries towards sex
    s2-lmr- beating any resistance the girl puts up before the point of no return for sex
    s3- sex (pretty self explanitory)


    if you want to better understand the proccess, i highly recomend getting a coppy of the book "mystery methode" by mystery. it is a good read and will help you to get a good idea of the breakdown of how indirect game works.

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    Just to add on to the EXCELLENT advice these guys have given...confidence is 100% internal. Hooking up with a 10 will give you temporary confidence but the next time you get rejected you will be back on the floor. Too many times i hear people say oh if i can land a hottie just once ill be confident. Its only temporary!!! Make your own confidence and it will always be there.

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    Default Re: How do I transition to getting my target to like me?

    Quote Originally Posted by iseriouslyneedhelp View Post
    Im comfortable in my own skin, I just mentioned those points to highlight that I cant just go up to a girl and say hey I think youre cute or something. I have to work my way into her being attracted to me.
    From everything I have with girls attraction has very little to do with looks its not like it is for guys. With girls it more about dhv and showing a good personality.

    I am in a very similar boat as you. One of the things I have done which is helping a lot is written out a list of ways I can DHV for example a few of mine are My Job, My House, I Train in MMA and plan to compete, I am running a 10k later this year for Charity, I am planning to do more traveling(more a dream and aspiration this one really) there are others those are some examples.



    Then memorise that list have as many as you can even little things. Then work on ways you can introduce them into a conversation just practice on friends or random people(donít have to be girls or HB) just practice controlling conversations so you can work short statements that DHV using open ended questions.This should help build attraction what to do with itÖwell I havenít got that far yet.



    From the sound of it at least you donít have aa which is going to help you out a lot(I am working on this at present)


    Hope this helps and I am sure more experienced PUA will correct me if I am wide of the mark this is just a summary of what I have read up so far.


    Raven


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