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Thread: Should I just let it go?

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    Default Should I just let it go?

    Hi,
    I'm new on here so any help would be awesome.

    There's this girl in the year below me in college who I have a thing for. I met her through a friend a couple of weeks ago. I ran into her on campus when I was about to walk somewhere for dinner...she says it's too cold, offers to give me a ride and asks for my number so she can call me when she gets off work. Five minutes later, she texts and tells me to come to her house for dinner with a friend of hers and her parents. It was a fun night, we watched a movie and seemed to get along really well. She was laughing at my jokes and we had a lot in common.

    Fast forward a couple of days, I invite her to come to a college hockey game with some friends of mine. She takes a while to respond, but says she'll come, and asks if it's cool if a friend comes with her, which of course was cool. She finds me at the game, but doesn't seem all that happy to be there. We talk a little, but she didn't ask any questions or initiate any conversations really. I couldn't tell if she was just shy or not interested. We talked a little, but she was texting a lot while the game was on, and made a comment that she doesn't really like hockey (why did she come!). She seemed a little nervous, and didn't seem to try to talk to me that much...too busy with her phone. I was a little annoyed with the non-responsiveness, so I left 10 minutes before the game ended (it was one-sided) with my friends, saying we had to go
    Texted her back and forth two or three times 2 hours later, asking how the game ended up, jokingly. Her texts had a lot of 'haha''s in them but were pretty short.The last time she didn't respond for hours, and ending up replying something like 'haha i know right'.

    Not sure whether to just leave it, not initiate any conversations via text or anything and wait to see if she contacts me? If so, how long should I wait before re-initiating? Or should I contact her in a couple of days and ask her out on a more one-on-one kind of thing? I was planning on doing so but the way she acted at the game makes me think maybe it's not worth bothering with.

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    it's interesting idk seems odd, and i agree with you if she didnt like it whyd she come, most likely for you, anyway try and get a 1 on 1 date with her and you'll get your answer, call her, don't text

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    anyway try and get a 1 on 1 date with her and you'll get your answer, call her, don't text
    I agree, but is there anyway I could gauge her interest before going straight in for the date?

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    Quote Originally Posted by david98 View Post
    I agree, but is there anyway I could gauge her interest before going straight in for the date?
    I'm a rookie at this stuff compared to other people on this forum but i'd say you might not be out of luck just yet , she did go to a hockey game to see you despite her not liking the sport. The fact she seemed weird could just be that it is her time of the month or she met someone else , which you should soon find out when you ask her out on a 1o1 date.

    If you score a date , lightly bring up the hockey game subject .Example "You know the other day i could see you didn't like hockey before you even told me or did i misread and it was something else ?"

    That's how i would approach it but i'm a rookie so what do i know

    Cheers from Canada and good luck

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    it's interesting idk seems odd, and i agree with you if she didnt like it whyd she come, most likely for you, anyway try and get a 1 on 1 date with her and you'll get your answer, call her, don't text
    i have to agree with hyp, you need to take her on a date to find out how she feels. take her out to dinner somewhere and have a good time. she obviously went to the hocky game just to see you. she didn't have a good time there because she came to talk to you (not to watch the game) imo she was probably intimidated by the evnironment in witch you took her for the date. places with large crowds of people can be intimidating for some people (especialy large crowds at unfamiliar venues) take her someplace more secluded (1 on 1) and make sure you end the date before it gets boring (keep it under an hour or 2)

    but is there anyway I could gauge her interest before going straight in for the date?
    how dumb can you be? why do you need to gage her interest?? i sense a little doubt in yourself. if she agreed to go to the hockey game she was pretty interested (especialy since she got way out of her comfort zone just to go see you) gage her interest by asking her out (i prefer texting over phone calls, but either will work)

    use http://www.puaforums.com/how-ask-gir...ner-close.html to ask her out. either she goes out with you or she doesn't, (either she likes you or she doesn't) it really is that simple (unless she comes up with a legit excuse as to why she can't show up.)
    good luck man!
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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    If you do get a date, make sure to be interesting, and playful. Don't be a clown, but be playful with her. She will be more interested if you are playful.

    You didn't go into too much detail, but it seems to me like you weren't very playful or interesting, and she might have just gotten bored with you.

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    You didn't go into too much detail, but it seems to me like you weren't very playful or interesting, and she might have just gotten bored with you.
    obviously he states that he made her laugh and they connected
    She was laughing at my jokes and we had a lot in common.
    clearly zeeman, you missed part of his post. he is playful and interesting. he just could have spent more time joking around with her at the hockey game.

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    Default Re: Should I just let it go?

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    obviously he states that he made her laugh and they connected

    clearly zeeman, you missed part of his post. he is playful and interesting. he just could have spent more time joking around with her at the hockey game.
    whoops... Misread.

    Sorry about that.

    Well... Continue to be playful and interesting.


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