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    Default How to do a Warm Approach

    Earlier this week, I asked the community a question. I was having trouble figuring out how to effectively approach women that I already knew. Unfortunately, I had not been getting back any feedback on the subject, and I personally felt like I was no closer to an answer than when I had first asked the question.

    At that point, I realized something. The advice from the experts is great, but at some point you have to take off the training wheels and learn to go on your own. With this in mind, I decided to take matters into my own hands.

    I did that by doing several things. I began looking posts about guys trying to deal with girls that they were already familiar with. It could either be through class lectures, work, whatever there was. I also continued to listen to my Durden tapes, along with a load of other things.

    In the end, I finally found my answer. I decided that since there was no feedback directly on the subject, I would create a guide on how to approach women that you are already slightly familiar with. In other words, here's how to do a warm approach.

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    Method 1. Observe Patterns

    If you notice the person that you know is in a specific place or walks down a specific route on a normal basis, keep a mental note of that. Regular patterns for a girl is an easy way to figure out where and when you should approach her. This is even better when the place or route is the same as yours. After this, it's all a matter of exercising the right timing.

    A quick note on this: you should never go running up to her. Approach her casually, maybe even a little trot if her back is turned, and then just go "Hey, how has it been?". Also, don't make it look like you timed the whole meeting so that you could talk to her (although that's what you totally did right there). Don't go for any cheesy openers with somebody that you are already slightly familiar with. Just approach them as if they were a friend and another girl in the world.

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    Method 2. Observe Things Out of the Ordinary

    If you find her doing something or she's at a place that you know she doesn't normally go to, this would be a great opportunity to approach her. Sometimes, curiosity can lead to great conversations. In this case, that is exactly what you are aiming for.

    Here is another way this works: If you go somewhere that you've never been to before, and you see her there, that is another great opportunity to start up a conversation with her. Ask her something like "Hey, I didn't know you normally come here". It's a great conversation starter that can lead to a great way to build rapport, entertain her, and Number Close.

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    Method 3. Find Commonality

    This can go hand in hand with the above two. If you notice that the woman you are familiar with has the same friends as you, this would make it way easier to approach her. When you notice her with your friends, just approach your friends and start chatting with them. As the conversation goes on, you can shift over to your target.

    Another method of commonality is through something like a job or a class. If you see her in the same class as you, chat about the class and then get a study date organized. If it's work, chat about work and then schedule a time outside of it to meet up.

    As I said above, if you notice that she's in the same location or route as you, it's a great opportunity to build rapport with her and have an interesting conversation.

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    I discovered after my eight hour bonding experience with Tyler Durden and other social gurus this weekend an important lesson in going about with things like these. My end conclusion is this:

    Buck Up, or Shut Up.

    You cannot go about with approaching women under the constant fear that the end result won't turn out the way you want it to. You also can't approach women trying to over-calculate and plan everything. You have to learn to trust yourself, and have a good time.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: How to do a Warm Approach

    I did warm approaches before I knew about game. Problem is, one day I realised I was 'running out' of women that I would like to approach.
    From my experience, it really depends on how your relationship is with those women.
    One time a girlfriend (platonic) of mine said that she'd cheat on her boyfriend for me. Next week she did. This was easy.
    Also women that you've only met one time are easier than cold.
    Just make sure they notice you're into them, just by talking, c and f or negging.
    Hope I'm clear..

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