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    Default Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird response..

    So I went out downtown Minneapolis last weekend and opened a couple sets by my self in between hanging out with the friends I was out with. I started a conversation with an HB8 and ran an opinion opener followed by a conversation about what she does for a living and what she's passionate about. She then asked me the same information and I told her that I worked in international real estate and some other random info about me. I then asked her to tel me 3 things about her that didn't have anything to do with her looks or her career (similar to what Style did to Jessica Alba) and after about 15 minutes of chatting I number closed with her (she actually took my phone, put in her number and called herself).

    Here's where things get weird...

    So I texted her today and we chatted a little bit, mostly small talk. I then explained that I had a great time with her and that I would love to grab a drink with her sometime. This was her response:

    "I would love that but unfortunately for the next month or so I'll be swamped. We're selling our house (her parents whom she lives with) and I'm kind of in a transition period. Maybe in a month or two if you still want to?"

    This really threw me off since up until that point, it seemed like she was interested in me. So what gives?
    IF she wasn't interested in me I figured she wouldn't of given me her number. She definitely wouldn't of responded to my initial text and chatted. I feel like the second part of her response gives off the impression that she's getting out of a relationship and isn't ready to dive into anything else?

    Any type of insight or explanation would help. If I did something wrong I really want to know what I did so I can correct this for next time. I'm new to the whole PUA lifestyle but am trying to learn!

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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    If you arn't trying to get anything from her but bang, move on?

    Cause think about it, should you actually wait to see her just to bang ?

    Best thing you can do is not react to that, because if she actually does get busy then you might just not see her, you can still call and text to keep in contact.

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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    The truth is she's let you down easy.

    Honestly, you were probably too attainable, she saw that, and now she's just trying to be kind. I'd take the hint and move on. Or, you can come down with a case of one-itis and start stalking and harrassing her until she calls the police. Your choice.
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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    Agreed with all of the above. You did everything great, up until you shot the gun early with that bar invite. The first two conversations should not be aiming to meet up with her again. You should focus instead on building rapport with her through entertaining and fun conversations.

    From here on out, I wouldn't even respond to her. Move on, and if she messages you back because she thinks she offended you, you can choose whether to try something with her again or not.
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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    She might genuinely be busy if she lives with her parents and they're selling the house. But like Duke said, it didn't help that you were a bit needy. I'd say move on from her, focus on other women, and get back to this woman in about a month or so if you want (unless she texts you or something back)

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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    Thanks for the insight guys. I agree I probably came off as a bit needy by asking her to hang out so soon. It has worked in the past but I totally see Swagman's point about building rapport first. I won't let this affect me, though! Will do some more sarging this weekend and move on.

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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    Atta boy, may the force be with you
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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    Quote Originally Posted by ED11356 View Post
    She might genuinely be busy if she lives with her parents and they're selling the house.
    Come on. Nobody is so busy for a month or more that they can't find time to hang out with someone at least once. You can bet your ass she'll find time to hang out with other people.
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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    Come on. Nobody is so busy for a month or more that they can't find time to hang out with someone at least once. You can bet your ass she'll find time to hang out with other people.
    I like this comment. Very true this same situation happened to me for a time. A HB8 back when I was very young and in my prime with women where I had them all coming to me, we met. I was doing a day job helping her move.

    She was moving and in a transition period as well. When I asked to come see her some time at her house she gave me the same story about being super busy. She went out of her way to take care of me though but because I didn't dhv her and display alpha male characteristics she ended it with me and told me "It just won't work out because she is too busy". I failed to really hook her into getting involved with me.

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    Default Re: Got a number and response when contacted... but then got a weird respon

    I think you base yourself too much on PUA (Oh dhv, Oh ioi's, Look hook/bait/pull) That'll just stress you out on the spot, think natural.

    But yeah, if she's not putting effort why should you ? You're the prize, not her.


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