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    Default Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    Hi guys,

    So Valentine's Day is coming up and I have this really fun day planned out in Vancouver: ice skate outside, the 3rd annual hot chocolate fair where outlets come up with crazy hot chocolate concoctions (bacon + marshmallow HC), and then to finish off the night, a burlesque show (i've always wanted to go to one).

    Now I met this girl last night at a show who's friends with a bunch of my friends. She's ABC- adorable, beautiful and cute bundled into one. Anyways, so we were chatting VERY briefly at like 4am, just chit-chat about when we were heading to sleep, about the show or whatnot.

    So, I sent her a message on FB a few hours ago saying "Hey Derpina, how's it goin? By the way, what's your number? I wanna call and ask you something." Essentially, I'm going to call her up and say "Hey, if you're not busy on Thursday, I'd like to take you out to go and ice skate, taste a bunch of wacky hot chocolate concoctions, and go to a burlesque show". The thing is, she hasn't replied to this particular message.

    I'm going through different scenarios as to why she didn't reply. Anyways, what do you guys think my plan of action should be?

    Thanks,

    RR

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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    Whoah there. Back it up! You're planning your Valentine's Day date before you've even gone out with the girl. Jeez! You're setting yourself up to fall and fall hard.

    Let's take two steps back. Forget the Valentine's Day thing altogether (unless you're going by yourself). Next, just because she hasn't responded doesn't mean she won't. But if I'm honest with you, that was one of the worst messages I've seen and you should go read the messaging guides on here.

    Also, if you get her number and call her up with the message you wrote out on here, I'm going to come through the computer screen and smack you silly. Please, read, some, threads, before you do anything else.

    JEEZ!
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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    I started dying when I read your post Duke. Very true, very true.

    I learned, and good thing it wasn't the hard way, that Facebook Messaging is overall really bad unless it's with someone that you know. It is a great idea to make sure that your Facebook page looks the best that it possibly can. However, there's no need to be trying to spit game over Facebook chat.

    Stick to text messages and real life.
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    @Duke: Well I'm just figuring it out because I've talked to a few female friends who would be down to go out with me if my plan falls through, as friends, but to have fun and hit up the 3 things I was going to suggest doing.

    Additionally, I didn't think the message was that bad because I was talking to a friend and she dug the call spiel I was going to say which saying things like "You've got this in the bag". But now with what you've posted, I'm worried. Could you suggest/link any particular threads?

    @Swagman: That's the thing, I don't have her number, which is why I was trying to get it from her on facebook so I could give her a call. I mean we were hanging out for hours at this EDM show, I was body blocking rolling, macho pricks bashing into her while they were flailing around. She gave me her purse and her long sleeve shirt which I looked after as she went on one of our friends shoulders. She actually bounced from the show without her shit, and so I gave it back to her at like 3am when we smoked up at a friends place. So it's not like we haven't hung out.

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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    I've never gamed on Facebook chat. I never thought of it to be a place to game and most girls would find it creepy if you did.

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    ED: Yeah I don't want to game her on fb at all. Just as a means to get her #.

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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    UPDATE: So I got her number. Her reply was, "hey sorry dont know why but i just saw ur message! heres my number xxxxxxx".

    So I called her twice today, 2 hours apart, and she didn't pick up once. I got counsel from a girl friend and so I texted "Hey this is ____, give me a call when you're free ".

    She replied about 5 minutes later with "Hey! I'm going out with some friends so texting might be better what's up?"

    Again, I seek counsel from a few girl friends, and text back like 30 minutes later, "Oh I was wondering if you'd like to go out on Thursday evening with me to check out _____ as well as a few other things. This is why I tried calling "

    She replies 1.5 hours later, "Ohh that sounds really nice but I actually already have plans for Thursday with some girls! I have ____ and need to pack before leaving that day too! BUT, we should definitely do something after the break "

    Don't think it went too badly eh?

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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    Sorry to tell you bud, but I think she's putting you down nicely.

    You came across as mega needy and annoying by trying to call her so many times. Also, you should not have invited her to go do things with you so quickly after you got her number. You can't make it look like you are coming from a position of scarcity. You have to show that you are a man who is interested in figuring out more about her to see if she is a worthy mate, not because you desperately want her.

    I think your best bet is to just let it be and move on. Keep in mind in the future that you should never try to call or invite somebody to go do something so quickly after you get your number.

    Keep it nice and steady on the blocks. Fall starting will only get you disqualified.
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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    Thanks for the reply Swagman.

    It is our midterm season and reading break (essentially 9 day holiday) so her going away and having plans isn't much of flag-raiser yet (also I'm guessing, HB8/9s like her that are in sororities would have planned what they were doing on Valentine's day way in advance- so my two day to go proposition was already semi-doomed for failure).
    She's also close friends with a lot of the brothers in the frat I'm a pledge for, so it'll be easy to get to know her since she's around the house a lot.

    Also, she wouldn't have needed to add the "we should definitely do something after reading break" did she? She could have left it as it was without the "invite" to hang out after spring break?

    But maybe I'm in denial... Anyways, your counsel is much appreciated. I'll update in 10 days time after spring break!

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    Default Re: Facebook Chat Message Sent No Reply

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    Sorry to tell you bud, but I think she's putting you down nicely.

    I think your best bet is to just let it be and move on. Keep in mind in the future that you should never try to call or invite somebody to go do something so quickly after you get your number.

    Keep it nice and steady on the blocks. Fall starting will only get you disqualified.
    WHy's that?!?!? LOL Ive been scolded for not inviting girls on ridiculous event by fellow AFC's before. I just dont argue with them .....

    Dude that told me this advice, bombed hard on some girl he never even met, and tried to invite on a road trip and he was devastated when she blew him off....HMMMM no foundation, no idea what your intentions are, +1 creep points

    Think about it(not relating to the OP here). Girl youve barely talked to, to the point u cant even comfortably use her name addressing her. You walk up say hey how are you, do you want to take a XXX hr trip or go to XXXX place with me. What do you think is going through her head with no prior contact for her to realize what kind of guy you are.

    Just no logic.....but then if you say theres no logic in making such move to an AFC like this theyll say "Your over analyzing it". So you just spray and pray????


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