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    Default Cant approach the women?

    Hello,
    So the past couple of days I have went out, and saw quite a few girls who I would've liked to approach, whether they are walking in the street, mall, at a bus stop, wherever, but I've never been able to.

    Its all in the daytime, and I have planned on using the opener:
    "Excuse me, where did you get that ***?" (*** being any item of clothing), and then following it up with its for a friends b'day. Whether or not I go any further I wasn't fussed about, I just wanted to actually approach girls first, then work on transitioning.

    But I can't seem to do it, I don't know whether its just that I dont have the confidence to do it or what it might be. I see a girl, want to approach her, but then 3-4 seconds later its too late.

    Any suggestions on getting past the sticking point?

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    Default Re: Cant approach the women?

    It seems like that may not be your style, & you're trying to use a "popular" scripted routine & opener that you're not actually comfortable with.

    Start out by just smiling at them & saying "Hello" or "Hey there" Or Good morning/afternoon/evening."

    Once you get used to just talking to them in general, it will be a LOT easier to progress further.

    But start out with little steps & go from there.



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    Default Re: Cant approach the women?

    Do you mean just saying Hello or w/e as Im passing them, and taking it no further at first?

    Only thing I'm curious with that is whats the next step?

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    Default Re: Cant approach the women?

    Yeah, at first just get used to approaching & saying something... with no other intention.

    There's no worry about "rejection" because you're only being friendly.

    THEN, after a couple days to maybe a week of doing that, it'll be really easy to approach anyone.

    During this time, you should also start paying close attention to everyone you see... and you'll get accustomed to finding things to talk to them or ask them about.

    Don't look at it as being "pick up"... ever!

    When you quit worrying about the outcome, everything flows much better & things fall into place a lot more smoothly.


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    Default Re: Cant approach the women?

    First off you are going through aa and we all get it. Read up on AA study David Wygant, Mystery Method, Tyler Durden, videos on YouTube for starters.

    Secondly I have only made about 8-9 approaches since I got in the game last year. Though this is a small number I made massive amounts of improvement. I can run an opener like nothing, transition to N-close, keep conversations, etc.

    The point is I too even still struggle w/AA but am going to be upping my game this year to about 25-50 approaches Day and Night Game.

    The main thing is learning what works for you. I use situational openers and am having some light inner game issues I am trying to work on.

    Other than that my flow has gotten a lot better and less nervous around hot women. Also I am less needy because I feel more of the selector and less of an AFC.

    Just do it and learn ad much as you can from your mistakes and where you can improve for next time. You will improve over time.


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