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Thread: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

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    Default Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    "Hey, I only know like two people at this party, mind if I talk to you"

    Obviously, this is only for PUAs that already have their confidence issues worked out as you need to come off pretty outgoing/nonchalant when you deliver it. I don't use it that often, but the dozen or so times I have, I've never been shut down. I guess the honesty makes them put their guards down, then you can proceed to charm.

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    I could see how you could use this to talk to people, but has it helped you close at all? It's a really beta approach. You're basically stating:

    1) I need you to entertain me because I don't have enough social value to get entertainment elsewhere;
    2) Please feel sorry for me because I'm alone; and
    3) I need to ask your permission to speak with you.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    To make it a little more alpha, maybe switch it up to something like "I don't know a lot of people here so I'm going to talk to you."

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    Try this:

    "I don't know a lot of people here and I've decided I'm going to meet everyone--starting with you. Hi, I'm TheDuke!"
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    Last two posts are good in terms of what to say if you're in that situation.
    Always be honest with women. That's the true meaning of a PUA.

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    Quote Originally Posted by scguitar View Post
    To make it a little more alpha, maybe switch it up to something like "I don't know a lot of people here so I'm going to talk to you."
    I think I've said it like that once or twice. Pretty good way to mix it up.

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    Quote Originally Posted by TheDuke View Post
    I could see how you could use this to talk to people, but has it helped you close at all? It's a really beta approach. You're basically stating:

    1) I need you to entertain me because I don't have enough social value to get entertainment elsewhere;
    2) Please feel sorry for me because I'm alone; and
    3) I need to ask your permission to speak with you.
    It's an intro at a party, so I can't really remember how they always played out later in the night, but I did close with a girl I used it on at this industry type party that I thought I was going to know more people at.

    I can understand you're probably imaging some unsure-of-himself guy asking asking "can I talk to you" in a approval seeking sort of way, but when you stroll up to a pair with a smile and say it confidently it definitely doesn't come across in a "feel sorry for me" sort of way.

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    I was a club promoter for a year and I found myself in surrounding cities (invited by other promoters) and have been in this situation MANY times. Also, when travelling alone to new cities or countries, I've been in the same situation... And what I do is always the exact same. I personally like either having wingmen or just having guys around that I know or can text, because I can only take so much of listening to women all night unless I get one that is damn educated. For me I prefer cool guys or educated girls.

    Anyway...

    When I am in this situation, the very first thing I will do is walk up to sets of guys who are centrally located and literally open them like I would a female, but I open the alpha instead of the betas. So for example, three guys talking in the middle of a party. One is usually the loudest and making motions with his hand. Alphas love to be alphas, so I may pause for a second until he's not paying attention to his friends (people usually have cycles where they will chill for a second, look at their sorroungdings and just enjoy their environment -- this is the key to being confident in the first place. so learn to spot it). At that moment, I will go over and ask him something like "girls in the place are are fucking hard to open man." So the idea here is the same as women. As soon as he opens his mouth, introduce yourself to the other guys and just start talking as though you were there from the beginning. If you do this right, the alpha will practice alphai-ing on you, and you will let him. Repeat: you will let him.

    Now you have a group, some status, and you can use this social circle to attract females over, wing on them, or "weirdly" you will find that your vibe has just skyrocketed.

    I know your original question was how to go open 2 girls, but if you are asking that question there are only two things wrong: 1. confidence and 2. inner-value. So... the above approach of just building rapport with guys will be a quick band-aid for this and help you out. Long term, confidence and value will let you approach directly (or you can just suck it up and force yourself to go over, open, and do Indirect Game on them). But, when I first started, I was mortified even to do that. But for some reason, I could go talk to guys and that helped kick-start me.

    In the beginning, do whatever is necessary to build comfort, value, and confidence, and in time it will just start to appear without the band-aid I am describing here.

    Rooshv has a good book called Bang and of course M3 and MB are both solid core products to study and just force yourself to do.
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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    I've done the make-friends-with-guys thing unintentionally a few times and come to think of it, it has worked great. Never really thought to do it intentionally though, now I'll be sure to keep that in mind. Thanks for the tip!

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    Default Re: Opener for when you're at a party where you don't know many people

    why do you need to declare you don't know anybody?, just try the "i'll talk with you a little moment", like they tell you above


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