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    RussellJ is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Barnd new I need help with an acquaintance

    First off I am a good looking, well dressed guy but with ZERO game and I finally came for help...

    Hello gents, I am new and I need help...big time. I'm having difficulty on how to proceed with a friend of a friend I met a couple weeks back. (about a month) I added her on FB sheís "liked" some pics of mine traded playful banter on walls etc. I saw her out at the bar with some mutual friends and as I walked into the bar she asked if I wanted a drink, I was quite stupid and said I already had one. (Idiot...I know) I eventually got to talking to her later in the evening and we shared some playful flirtation, laughing, touching, etc...She even pulled out her phone at one point to show me something which would have been a perfect time to get her number, but I ended up getting back to my friends and she hers, but before I left I said, "Make sure you save the last dance for me." (She kinda gave me a funny look but then smiled)

    Now there is approx 1 hour till the bar closes and she it right behind me dancing and I freeze, I don't get behind her and grind...nothing. (I would have taken her by the hand and twirled her around and danced with her as I am a phenomenal dancer, but felt weird just grinding her) I went outside 2 smoke, came back in and she was gone. I posted her a picture of Houdini on her Fb wall she responded with ? I responded with you have a lot in common..she responded hahaha..... Ok so I know I royally screwed up quite a few times, as she has given me a bunch of opportunities that I did not capitalize on..Now I have no idea when I will see her next and I don't know how to proceed. Out mutual friend told me she got out of a bad relationship recently and was feeling blue. She posted a pic with a friend recently with a forced smile and now shes posting she went out with an old friend..(a dude) I plan to proceed with "I hate to see you force a fake smile, especially when I know what a great real smile you do have...all I'm saying is I can tell you're hurting, I've been there before if you need someone to talk to I'm here for you." Honestly I have NO Idea what the hell I am doing, that's why I'm here. Help me men!

    ps: I'm acquaintances with a couple of guys that have slept with her and I am better looking.

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    Default Re: Barnd new I need help with an acquaintance

    Anyone out there willing to help a brother out?

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    Default Re: Barnd new I need help with an acquaintance

    Hey man,

    I would not send that message. Flat out no lol.

    Yes it does suck that you missed those opportunities. I think in The Attraction Code he calls them windows. It's a form of shit test I believe, but a lot more subtle. She will give you these windows and, if not taken, will not view you as a confident man. Or at least clueless lol.

    If you can bump into her then that would be great. But if not, now your contact ability is limited to FB. And that just sucks when the attraction either isn't there or it died out. There's some good stuff on here for FB Game. But would not send that message.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Barnd new I need help with an acquaintance

    I appreciate the input my man, yeah I didn't send it lol. I eventually got her # via facebook, had a date with her, but nothing happened. I went to a parade yesterday with 40+ ppl, her being one of them, I talked to her for a brief minute or 2, but other than that I basically ignored her the rest of the day. I could tell by her body language (ie: she was talking with different people throughout the day, and I was doing the same, but much of that time period she was facing me....meanng she had her feet pointed in my direction, even while she was talking to other people. (that's a big hint too guys, just to let you know....look where a woman's feet are pointed, even at a bar or whatever, if she's pointed towards you, talk to her! in my case I was ignoring her intentionally, as I am not trying to be seen as needy, which I may have done already accidently via text but I'm recovering.) I recently got a fresh hair cut and she "liked" a pic of me with it and commented..."I like the hair cut." I "liked" her comment and replied "you would". Now Im going to wait till she texts/calls me, I'll give it 1 week tops before I get back to her, and ask her when I can take her out on a real date. Good idea? Bad Idea? You tell me! lol

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    Default Re: Barnd new I need help with an acquaintance

    First of all man when it comes to the game looks have very little to do with it. Either your game is tight or it isnít and yours definitely isnít. Obviously you want to fark this girl from the tone of your posts so what I would do is quit being an AFC and all the touchy feely stuff of the face book posts, and helping her out because she just got out of a bad relationship. Itís good to pick up on ioiís but if you donít do anything with them then it is useless and a waste of time. You said she sleeps around because a few of your buddies have been with her so this tells me that it should be easy for you to get with her. What you need to do is step up to the plate and man up and if you donít know how to do this then read a few of the articles on this site about being an alpha man.

    You are trying to be a nice guy and a pick up artist at the same time, and there are only a few guys who can pull this off, and you are not at that level yet. Besides working on being an alpha man concentrate and work on your inner game because I see you lack a lot of confidence. Donít worry about hooking up with her or what she thinks be your own man and do things that interest you, and once she sees that you have more confidence she will be drawn to you. Thatís the one thing your friends had and that is why they were able to fark her. Also start making yourself scarce because you are too available posting on face book or at events she attends. Create mystery, and pursue other women because focusing on her does make you seem desperate and needy which she can sense a mile away.


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