Re: The hazards of autopilot.
I know what you're saying, but I find that that does not work for me. When I very first started PUA, I read a whole bunch of Mystery's material, about Indirect Game and all these little 'keys' that I could say to unlock any chick's pants. I would approach sets with little/no confidence but, with a whole lot of stuff to say. Looking back on it, it probably would not have given anyone pleasure to be around me while I was sarging because everything that I said was calculated. A HB7 once told me (5 minutes after I met her) that everything I said sounded like a script, and truthfully, it was. I knew at this moment that something had to change.
I decided to focus my attention inward, and began reading a LOT about Direct Game. With more and more practice, I learn't that it doesn't necessarily matter what I say, just the manner of which I say it. For this reason, I decided to stop using scripts (okay, a lot less scripts ). Instant improvement- I started having fun. I made a decision to go into 'autopilot', and all of a sudden, PUA was fun. And when you're having fun people around you start to have fun.
There are only a couple of times that I think about PUA while sarging:
Pre-sarge- It helps to work out your frame before you go out. Personally, I like to tell myself that I'm just out to have fun and that everything I do throughout the course of whatever I'm doing will be directed to that goal.
Decision Time- I make a quick decision about what I want, and then tell people about it the way an Alpha would: with confidence and belief that it is the correct choice.
Texting- I've always sucked at texting so I consciously use a lot more PUA techniques in order to compensate. Even then, I don't say anything that I'm not congruent with, and I try to let my personality shine through.
Story-telling- I tell a fair few stories about people I've met and places I've been. And, I'll admit, I say the same words each time I tell them. But, I never sound scripted. This is because I will tell them a different way to each person, and they are actual experiences I've had (slightly exaggerated in some cases). I'm 100% congruent.
Post-Sarge- I think that this is the most important time to think about PUA. This is when we need to reflect on the positives and the negatives of our game, so that when we are next in the field, we will make the improvement without thinking.
Thinking about PUA at only these points helps me keep the conversation natural, flowing and fun for both parties. And when you RELAX, at lot more desirable facets of your personality begin to emerge.
Take it easy,
"It ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can be hit and keep moving forward"