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    Default Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    Okay guys I have recently decided asking out the HB9 Bartender that works at the Club I go to. I have been running quite a bit of game on her and have gotten quite a high amount of ioi's and even got her invested into our interaction.

    She flirts with me and enjoys me being there. I thought of going for her # next time but I think that though it will feel natural just won't work on this girl since she is very high status.

    I would like to demonstrate more confidence by asking her out the next time I see her (Saturday's) and ask her out for a Sunday D2.

    I will ask her out to a local Whole Foods where they have a Starbucks there and offer to buy her a donut. Not only is this easy but it is also a way to qualify her. What do you guys think I should remember for when I ask her out next time?

    I will say something like

    "Hey I am really into you, I want to meet you on more mutual terms. Meet me at Whole Foods tomorrow @ 3pm on Blah Blah street. You have 30 minutes to be late but that's it. It's the one in such and such area."

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    "Hey I am really into you, I want to meet you on more mutual terms. Meet me at Whole Foods tomorrow @ 3pm on Blah Blah street. You have 30 minutes to be late but that's it. It's the one in such and such area."

    It sounds a little contradicting "Hey I am really into you" and "You have 30 minutes to be late"

    Try "Hey you look like you like to have fun! Let's go to x tomorrow and x." Then explain why its going to be fun, I've always felt if you put a time constraint on a date it makes it seem like it's a job interview.

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    Yeah, I agree with Hotel... seems off.

    I would just go with... "You seem really fun when we talk here, but I'm guessing you're not as fun when things are quieter (neg HB)...just a hunch. Meet me at whole Foods tomorrow blah blah blah. and let's see if we have fun. If you are fun, you get a donut." You say this confidently and in a fun, smiling way.
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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    Awesome responses guys I like the content. I guess I forgot less is more. Plus I just realized that's way too much info to try and get across and likely she will reject before I even finished.

    So I just thought of something reading this. Girls are very emotionally charged so rather than using a canned line I mentioned.

    So here's my new suggestion tell me what you guys think.

    Me: Hey HB I want to tell u something.
    Her:Yeah?
    Me: I really like talking to you, you're fun!
    Her: Oh yeah?
    Me: Definitely, let's go to Whole Foods tomorrow @3 and I'll buy you a donut if you can entertain me.
    Her: Yes/No
    Me: Okay here's the address. Then we can meet on more mutual terms.

    I am predicting her responses but this is better because it will make me seem more mysterious plus when I try to lay down a thick line it gets awkward. So should I try that then?

    Not to mention but when trying to pick up women I have noticed it goes better when the conversation is flowing to do the pick up routine.

    If I try a routine off the bat or out of the blue it gets pretty ugly in there. Now I would use Hotel's line because it is solid but I have just noticed lately HB's love it when I keep them guessing.

    My best approaches have come when I started off a question based on the situation. So I think that would be a good idea using a pre-planned convo.

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    take a wing girl or two with you when you go chat her up next time... show some pre-selection. if you havent got any wings to take, find one in the club and introduce her. ask her out later

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    You can sneak a little pre-selection/dhv in there by telling her that your friend (girls name here) said you should go to this great place she recommended.

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    Hey guys I got a question, she has been feeding me ioi's like I said but says she is seeing someone. I was wondering should I wait 3 months to make a move? By the way I can tell she likes me by the IOI's, telling me she will be thinking about me, checking me out hard, etc.

    I don't know if I should wait because she is dating a DJ there or should I move in for the kill right away? Basically how long should I wait after this new development since she is getting even more comfortable with me lately?

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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    Personally, I'd present it to her as you being more of a challenge & with stipulations...

    Saying something like, "You shouldn't be flirting with me if you're already seeing someone... I'm not the type to interfere with other people's relationships. However; if I'm reading too much into it, then by all means, flirt away!" & smile / wink.


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    Default Re: Going to ask out the Bartender any pointers?

    if shes dating someone else then you best need to date someone else, and make sure she sees you with other women. create a Jealousy Plotline, even if you make use of wing girls to pretend you're dating them. but still keep some of the flirting up. girls go mad over what they cant have


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