Re: The excuse is: Not ready to date
If you read my quote below that talks about interpretations, it'll solve 90% of your issues. It's about frame control.
She set the frame that she has issues. I've had a woman cry just by me simply telling her that there is nothing wrong with her. That she was ok as she is now. Now, she may still think she has issues, but it's a good start for setting a frame and a dynamic.
Because it's not about truth. It's not about what's right and wrong. It's all relative. It's about power. A stronger frame of mind. A stronger sense of "reality" and the way we interpret our world. It's all shapeable if you have the mind for it.
So like some of these guys said, don't feed into it. By putting attention on it you are helping it manifest into a real problem instead of something minor. Now that doesn't mean that if she wants to open up you dismiss her. Simply be a good ear and listen, but don't give much feedback. Just let her unload and focus on the future and a fresh start.
Of course her issues are real. In a sense. She has been through some tough stuff. But she can either learn from it and progress or let it destroy her. Like Dr.Phil says, treat it like "This is a changing day, in your life." Hope this helps and good luck.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."