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    Default Minimizing rejection

    So, I have a theory. It's most likely not new, but it is to me. Instead of just randomly approaching women, confidence or not, doing your thing, and playing a bit of a numbers game, you don't always know if she's interested or not.

    Well, i had an idea to kind of screen a girl for attraction before you approach. Simply walk by, make eye contact and smile while holding the eye contact. If she holds it and smiles back (not like a half-arsed "I don't care for you" smile), then this would imply at least some attraction and make it more likely for you to succeed. Also, since she smiled at you too, your opener can be something like "I noticed you checking me out..." which I think is a great opener.

    I know, not really ground breaking, but I've never really heard of such an idea before.

    I would have tested this earlier when I got a smile back from a solid HB8. However, I'm on 2 hours of sleep and was physically too tired to do anything. Plus, since I'm still new to day game, I was a little intimidated by all the people around (it was in line for food in a very crowded area). Totally regret not doing it now. I'll have to test it tomorrow and see if my batting average is any better and how it affects my aa.

    Anyway, lemme know what you think and if you have any other "screening" suggestions.

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    Default Re: Minimizing rejection

    I read something like this here a while ago, but I don't think it's directly related to day game. It's something like, "Hey, if you check me out again, I might have to charge you!" Follow up later with, "Caught ya again...put it here!" (pointing to your cheek). Very ballsy, but if you can pull something like this off, more power to ya!
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Absolutely can be used night or day... I just feel it's better to use for the day since day game is a little harder since there is lower energy and less alcohol

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    Default Re: Minimizing rejection

    Quote Originally Posted by scguitar View Post
    So, I have a theory. It's most likely not new, but it is to me. Instead of just randomly approaching women, confidence or not, doing your thing, and playing a bit of a numbers game, you don't always know if she's interested or not.

    Well, i had an idea to kind of screen a girl for attraction before you approach. Simply walk by, make eye contact and smile while holding the eye contact. If she holds it and smiles back (not like a half-arsed "I don't care for you" smile), then this would imply at least some attraction and make it more likely for you to succeed. Also, since she smiled at you too, your opener can be something like "I noticed you checking me out..." which I think is a great opener.

    I know, not really ground breaking, but I've never really heard of such an idea before.

    I would have tested this earlier when I got a smile back from a solid HB8. However, I'm on 2 hours of sleep and was physically too tired to do anything. Plus, since I'm still new to day game, I was a little intimidated by all the people around (it was in line for food in a very crowded area). Totally regret not doing it now. I'll have to test it tomorrow and see if my batting average is any better and how it affects my aa.

    Anyway, lemme know what you think and if you have any other "screening" suggestions.

    This would be a form of flirting but not the best way I think to do things. You absolutely must approach a girl unless the social dynamics are bad (w/BF, unapproachable due to certain situations, etc) or unless she is just cute and not that attractive to you but you feel a little something.

    I would never approach a girl that is unapproachable because when I have I have been totally shunned. Best to keep it cool and approach the ones who have open body language, already isolated, having fun with friends, not pissed, etc.


    As far as your suggestion though not playing a numbers game the theory is right but your method behind it lacks intuition. It's better to approach a girl you're interested in and make a go at it. I like the walk away since I often hit on girls that are working I already know where they work so I just keep hitting them up to try and get something going over time rather than all in one shot going for the number.

    To better screen I would recommend not going for the N-close right away but seeing first if you can vibe with her, click with her, and still like her.

    Example:
    I just walked into a Convenience Store while it was snowing and saw a Asian HB7. I am usually not that attracted to Asians but for some reason found her very hot.

    Convo:
    She helped me get a hot dog and immediately she started hitting on me. I don't know if this is because I am a PUA and am getting very good at inner game but none the less I hit on her pretty hard.

    Started asking if she went to school there, found out she is from Cali, wanted to talk more but she walked off. She kept jumping in trying to say something. The funny thing is we both hit on each other at the same time only she was a few seconds ahead of me.

    As I was leaving I was like "Aww man" cuz the guy wanted to ring me up and I wanted her and think I should have looked around more to better play this thing out but oh well. So as I was leaving I got her name and she got mine. But trust me I am not leaving it there! It's all about building rapport so next time I can run some more game on her and eventually once I am ready look to close her.

    It's all about Rapport
    I wished that I could just walk by and like you said wink at a girl and smile and play around but I could never do that due to the very high maintenance of most hot women. They will rarely approach me but sometimes do, and sometimes hotties do hit on me but it is usually when I already created a vibe with them. Sometimes I get hit on when I am not in the zone but very rarely.

    So I don't think what you said could work due to the social dynamics of you doing that and her immediately walking away, getting approached by another guy, thinking you are just trying to be a tease which will bore her, etc.

    Minimizing Rejection
    But yes I definitely agree we need to minimize rejection somehow. I think this is by having a super bomb interaction. I am trying out Destruction Mode that I made listed in the "How to Approach Women" section and will be posting Field Reports on it and see how it goes this weekend. This method was created not to prevent blow outs but to prevent flaking since I keep getting numbers that go no where. I have noticed rejection isn't that bad because I just go game another one which is more fun, it is really when I get lead on or played that sucks.


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